Ok, so Lolli is not “junk” per se, but come on it was a clever title :) I have always wanted to tie someone up and put them in a trunk…it’s a sick lil fantasy of mine. I got to finally do this with a model friend and I had a blast!

I tied her up and I put her in the trunk and took photos, she was sexy of course and I love putting her in ropes. Once she was in the trunk I figured I would just take some photos and be done with it. Then she wanted me to close the trunk on her. Fine. I took her out and tested the automatic trunk door…everything was fine at the push of a button. YAY!

I picked her up and put her back in the trunk and closed the door. I didn’t breath the entire time and after about a minute (though it felt like forever…I get very nervous for my girls in bondage) I pressed the button to open the trunk.

Nothing.

The trunk was still closed. I took a deep breath and pressed the button again.

Nothing.

Shit.

She had no keys on her key ring, it was all buttons. There was no manual entry. I pressed the button again.

Third time’s the charm?

You betcha! Finally the thing opened and I was able to get her out of the trunk. My heart was racing and I was sweating. She looked and me and said, “What’s the matter?” Apparently she had no idea that she was nearly trapped in her own trunk. Oh dear bob what an ordeal!! Well at least I can cross that fantasy off the list, or maybe next time I’ll make sure there’s an actual key that goes into the trunk first!

Tags: Bondage, Fantasy, kidnap fantasy, trunk bondage

I have been invited to be a speaker at a kink event. This is really, really WIN, and seems to be happening more frequently, which is SUPER cool.

This one is in Colorado. It is called Denver Bound. It is a smaller event, and they have an interesting setup. They have a few people come and do a very intensive weekend, 4-5 classes each over the 3 day period.

Last year, it was 4 rope bondage rigger types.

Um….yeah.

You can see where I am going with this.

You see, I’m not a “rope bondage teacher.”

I checked, and yes, it is a rope-bondage intensive. I asked the organizer if he was sure he was asking the right person? He said emphatically yes.

But what the fuck do I know about rope bondage?

Dammit Jim, I’m a submissive, not a rope rigger!

Most of the time, we’re props.

I have certainly demoed in rope bondage classes. But not all that often, because the desire to see fat girls tied up isn’t high.

Unless the class is about tying up fat girls.

As I thought about what I might have to say about rope from my perspective… that being the bottom side.

I remembered that my first glimmer of a desire to, and a possible capacity for teaching in the Kink community was when I was bottoming during a rope demo. There I was, one leg tied behind me, semi-suspended in a rope harness, in a rumpled dishabille from all of the hemp rope. I was grooving — blissed out and high on hemp in a way that doesn’t take any smoking and sure enough has nothing to do with THC.

Someone asked my Trainer, who was teaching, if it was OK to ask me a question. He said yes, it was OK.

So there I was with about the ball of one foot on the floor, arms behind my back, half lost in the haze and smoky head-trip of rope bondage, talking about what that was like.

It would sound impossible to be able to be coherent in one of the least conducive situations imaginable: tied up and turned on and mostly naked in front of a classroom full of attentive witnesses.

This is where a lifetime mad acting skillz is really an amazing tool, yo.

The “me” in bondage became the character I was dissecting. The “me” who remains present was able to do a character breakdown, and “interview” the sub-spacey Mollena.

I talked about how much the process of losing control incrementally can be very arousing and also scary. About how I had, even in the year since I’d been in Service to this particular Dominant, developed quite an affinity for rope bondage and hemp rope in particular. To the point where even the smell of a well-conditioned hank of hemp heats me up…just a little. Just enough.

I talked a lot. Eventually I was gagged, to stem the tide of increasingly breathy babbling.

Shit happens.

So, yeah. What DO bottoms have to say about rope bondage?

As it turns out, quite a bit.

I immediately came up with one topic: “Beautiful Victim: Negotiating, Communicating and Illuminating your Submission.” It would be around self-expression for bottoms, and help for tops and dominants in eliciting those wonderful connections and reactions that so many crave. OK, cool!

I thought also a class that taught about warm-up, processing and cool down, on a physical level, would be great.

I chatted a bit yesterday with a friend who brainstormed with me on another angle: that of a whole “From the Bottom:” series of classes. A discussion of and exploration into why bottoms enjoy rope bondage, what happens emotionally when you are going into, coming out of, and processing afterwards, some of the reasons people love or avoid it, etc.

Come to think of it, this is really an awesome kind of challenge to which I gotta step up :-)

Never underestimate the power of a submissive. NEVER.

Tags: BDSM, Bondage, denver bound, education, from the bottom, rope, submissives

Catalina’s Favorite Sex Blog Posts Of The Week!

CatalinaLoves.com:

Catalina hates Myspace.com
Catalina loves 10 Sexy Things About Men

CatalinaSays.com:

The Good Things List Lives On
Amazing Friends

BestSexBloggers.com:

Sunday Evening Fuck
Crawling In The Dark

MarkyDSade.com:

Princess Donna and Kink.com Launch New Bondage and Public Sex Site: Public Disgrace
Madison Young Gets Tied Up, Caned, and Forced to Cum on Hogtied.com

Backdoor Bondage Blog:

Sgt. Major Puts Fetish Model Charlotte Brooke Through Outdoor Bondage on Sarge’s BDSM Clip Store
Reflections on The Bondage Past - Jade Marxxx and John Blakemore (H.O.M.)

Nawalochai.com:

Shots from Folsom
Folsom Coverage on BehindKink.com

Into The Attic Blog:

Elizabeth
The Zayda J. Hubbub

Thursday’s Child:

Knee Sock Fetish HNT

Over The Top Kinky:

Romanian Hottie Lea Lexis Gets Fucked In The Ass In Public

Bad Bad Girl:

Like Lovers Do

Confessions From My Open Marriage:

There’s a First Time For Everything (Confession #146)

Mz Berlin’s Blog:

Mz Berlin Does Lesbian Love Right in Friends and Lovers with Madison Young

Satine Phoenix’s Blog:

Satine Phoenix is Good Enough To Eat In This Cannibal Fetish Scene from Muki’s Kitchen

Ms. Nikki Nefarious:

Like My Ropes? Buy Them!

TruFetish.com:

Mark Me Yours…

Ellie Lumpesse: Pretentious Pervert:

What’s Wrong With Sex Work?

The Urban Gypsy:

Cleavage of the Day Updated for HNT

Sweltering Celt:

HNT - Getting A Little Leggy

Debauched Domestic Diva:

HNT: aka Cleavage of the Week

Happiness is a Dominant Woman:

Thoughts of Dominant Wives and Submissive Husbands

::psst… for more hot sex blog links go to Sugasm.com::

Tags: 10 sexy things about men, Backdoor bondage, Bad Bad Girl, BDSM, BehindKink, Best Sex Bloggers, Bondage, bondage clips, Bondage Rope, caning, Cannibal Fetish, Catalina hates Myspace, Catalina Loves, Catalina Says, charlotte brooke, cleavage, Clips4sale, Confession, Confessions From My Open Marriage, D/s, debauched domestic diva, Dominant Wives, Ellie Lumpesse, Fetish, fetish model, folsom street fair, forced orgasm, friends, Happiness Is A Dominant Woman, HNT, HNT Cleavage, HNT Legs, HNT Nude, HOM, Images from Folsom, Into the Attic, jade marxxx, john blakemore, kink dot com, Kink Review Blog, Kinkiest posts, kinky, Kinky Posts of the Week, Knee Sock Fetish, Lea Lexis, Lesbian, Link Roundup, madison young, Marky D. Sade, Ms. Nikki Nefarious, Mz Berlin, Mz. Berlin’s Blog, Nawalochai, Open Marriage, outdoor bondage, Over The Top Kinky, pretentious pervert, princess donna, public disgrace, Public Sex, Satine Phoenix, satine phoenix blog, Sex, Sex Blog, sex work, Sgt. Major, Submissive Husbands, Sweltering Celt, The Good Things List, the history of bondage, thursday’s child, Top Sex Blogs, Trufetish, Urban Gypsy, weeks best, Zayda J. Hubbub

Liberator is synonymous with quality sex furniture. I have already written about the Liberator Black Label Ramp/Wedge combo, which I adore. I use the ramp/wedge all the time, seriously - it is so easy to just pull it out of the closet and throw it on the bed and have great sex! It can be a little outside of some people’s budgets, though, and especially now with the sucky economy, it’s the time to save money. So this time I tried out the new product from Liberator called The Whirl. Now you can buy top-shelf Liberator products for less than you would spend on a top-drawer vibe!

Take a look at the images - you can see for yourself why you’d want The Whirl. It is the perfect bolster to put your hips up just so - 10″ to be exact - for extra support and deeper penetration. The microfiber cover zips off easily to be thrown in the washer and dryer (and only gets softer with each wash), and because it looks like a vanilla bolster pillow, there’s no need to hide it - throw it on your bed with the rest of your pillows.

The Whirl I have is Black Label, so that means I can use the same cuffs and tethers that came with my wedge-ramp. You could put it between someone’s ankles and use it as a spreader bar, leaving them attached to the Whirl by the ankles and spread wide open. You could put her on her back with The Whirl under her hips and her hands bound to each side, unable to move. Oh, the possibilities are endless! It’s a really nice substitute for the ramp if you can’t quite afford the investment for the ramp/wedge combo.

Everybody loves Liberator products - in my experience people speak very highly of their line of sex shapes and furniture. If you wanted a wedge/ramp but couldn’t afford it, grab yourself a Whirl and go for it! Give the Whirl a whirl and let me know what you think about it, would you?

Tags: black label ramp, black label ramp-wedge combo, black label wedge, Bondage, Liberator, liberator review, Liberator Sex Furniture, liberator sex shapes, liberator whirl, review, Sex furniture, sex furniture review, Sex Shapes, whirl

There was a time that I actually participated in BDSM activities. I was single and dating, putting myself out there in hopes of finding something real. In the process, I learned a lot about myself and about the lifestyle. Since my life has become less edge and more vanilla, I am more thankful than ever that I had the opportunity to experience things for myself.

My first experience with any sort of bondage came from a man named Michael. He was older by about fifteen years and very wise in the ways of the world. To this day I’m not certain of his heritage but it doesn’t matter. The important thing is knowing that he was gorgeous and sophisticated and he ruled his world with an iron fist.

He rented a hotel room for me and I checked in two hours ahead of our scheduled meeting time. I showered and shaved, feeling very much like a virgin on her wedding night. I followed his instructions and swallowed the fear, pretending that I was an old pro.

That first night I sucked him off and he made me orgasm by pressing his mouth to my dripping cunt. It was slow and sweet and I felt let down. Then I felt guilty for questioning him, even if it was only in my mind. As he dressed to leave, I was speechless.

The next morning he showed up at six and gone were the sweet ways and the pleasantries. Instead I was face down in the mattress with his condom covered cock violating me. His hands held my long auburn hair as if he were holding the reigns of a mare and as he leaned over me I felt his teeth close against the flsh of my back. I screamed out loud and his climax was almost instant.

We showered and left the room to go to lunch. I don’t remember where he took me, but it was nice and quiet. We could talk in whispers and I loved feeling as if I hadn’t a care in the world.

Back at the hotel he told me to undress and lay on the bed. I did as I was told and waited with bated breath. A blindfold was placed over my eyes and it crossed my mind that I should probably fear for my life. Instead, I laid still and waited for his next move.

He raised my hands above my head and I felt the cold steel handcuffs close. The loud click echoed in the nearly empty room and I tested them. They were tight but they didn’t dig into my skin, so I relaxed once more.

My ankles were restrained and I knew that my fat body spread eagle on the bare bed must have made an awful sight. He said he liked women with curves, BBWs, and I had believed him. Now I wondered if he only chose them to torture and kill them, to make the world better for pretty thin people. Still, I didn’t move. I just laid there and shivered.

I felt his fingers in my skin and he told me to remember that I was free to use my safe word whenever I felt I needed it. I didn’t speak. It wasn’t something that needed a reply.

Almost immediately I felt the flogger land between my breasts. One blow then another. Over and over again he alternated between my breast, my fat tummy, and my muscular legs. I cried and I came; I screamed his name and begged for mercy but I didn’t use my safe word.

He stopped and I heard him begin to rummage through his toy bag. I heard him tear open a condom package then the sound of it being rolled into place. He was going to fuck me again, after the intense flogging. I began to cry and contemplate the safe word. My body was tired and my soul was in need.

There was a click and whirl of noise. I stopped crying to listen more closely. I heard the shutter of a camera and began to panic in earnest.

He told me to keep my legs spread and my mouth shut. I felt his fingers pry my cunt lips apart and the coolness of a condom against my skin. A sharp pain shot through me and I tried not to scream.

In and out; out further, in deeper. Over and over again he fucked my pussy with a huge object, stopping only long enough to take pictures. I cried and moaned and soared. The orgasms shook my body.

As quickly as it had started, it was over. He removed the restraints. He unlocked the handcuffs. When he removed the blindfold and I saw his smiling face, nothing had ever looked so fabulous.

We bathed together in the huge jacuzzi tub and I remember thinking that I would never again be the same. More than he needed to control, I needed to submit. I needed to be controlled; I needed to be told what to do because otherwise, my brain would never turn off. He recognized it and nurtured it. He kept me for the entire summer, feeling so strongly that I was walking in the sun.

And now? I’m lost. I’m always on. I’m crawling in the dark.

Tags: BDSM, Bondage, fellation, Fetish, First Encounters, It Really Happened, Kink, Life, Oral sex, Photography, Sex, sex blogger, Submissive, The Butterfly Temptress

There’s something about a glass dildo that makes it especially fun. Maybe it’s that you can easily chill the glass. Maybe it’s the weight of the glass. Maybe it’s the texture. Maybe it’s because they are so easy to clean and sanitize. Whatever it is, I am a fan of a good glass dildo. They are pretty.

This week, for New Toy Tuesday, I present to you The Pleasure Swirl. A smooth glass dildo with textured swirls all around the shaft and a nice ball tip to reach all the right spots. I’ve used it myself and I’ve used it on others and the popular consensus is that it feels good.

It’s not a dildo that will bring me to orgasm, but it’s nice to have nearby to slide in and play with while masturbating or as foreplay. Marky uses it on me and I get soaking wet within minutes of being fucked by it. He says it looks just as beautiful going in as one would imagine it would. We used it once for a little double penetration action - he slid it into my ass while fucking me and we both thought the combination was amazing!

I know you may have the (false) impression that glass dildos are way out of your price range. Take a look. This is a really reasonably priced toy and that doesn’t mean it’s cheap, in fact it’s great quality. Sure, you could spend hundreds, even thousands of dollars on erotic glass art, but if you’re just in the market for a nice glass dildo, you’re set with this selection at VibeReview.com!

I compared it to the Cyberglass Felicity, which I reviewed several weeks ago, and I don’t know if I could pick a favorite based solely on the toy. I’d have to say maybe the Cyberglass Felicity because there is more to it, but mostly I would choose the Felicity because it comes with a nice little velvet pouch that keeps it from “tinking” in my toy drawer with the other glass toys I have. My only complaint about the Pleasure Swirl is that it doesn’t have its own protective case or cover.

Don’t forget - it’s just over a month away until election day. Between then and now, if you use the Obama for President coupon link, you’ll save 10% on your order! Not bad, you can get off and save money - talk about stimulating the economy!

Tags: Bondage, Catalina Loves, dildo, foot fetish, Glass Dildo, review, sex toy review, vibereview

Hello Rope Lovers,

The team has been working very hard & registration for ShibariCon 2009 is officially open!

The BEST rope CommUNITY in the world!

ShibariCon 2009
May 22-25, 2009
Chicago, IL USA

4 DAYS OF CLASSES
Whether you are a novice or advanced rigger ShibariCon has something
for you! We will offer over 80 classes by the best instructors
around including Mark Yu, Mike West, Jimi Tatu, Lee Harrington,
DogTrainer1974, Lochai of hogtied.com, Mark of DV8 House, Sir
C, Dov and too many more to list. Check http://www.shibaricon.com
for updates in the coming months.

3 NIGHTS OF PLAY
Practice your newly learned rope skills in our fully-equipped play
space until 3:00am for 3 consecutive nights!

SHOP!
ShibariCon will have a great selection of vendors selling all sorts
of kinky goodies including rope, toys, corsets, shoes and much, much more!

15% DISCOUNT IF YOU REGISTER NOW!
ShibariCon is offering a 15% discount off of our early registration
price of $155 through the end of October! That means you can
register now for only $132.00! Registration will be limited so this
is a great time to reserve your place. Register here:
http://www.shibaricon.com/registration/register.php The link should
be up on the site within the week.

Please join us for what will be a wonderful weekend of education, fun
& friendship.

Tags: Bondage, education, Lochai, rope, Shibari, shibaricon

Lochai is bringing the art of rope bondage back to Hogtied.com. His debut shoot is a must for all bondage fans, and for people who want to improve their rope skills. From beginners to experts, this how-to should not be missed.

In this great tutorial, they slowly go over many of the ties and techniques used at Hogtied to make sure their (gorgeous) models are helpless and secure.

They slowly take you through and demonstrate a variety of ties and techniques: The wrist tie/elbow tie and the elusive hair tie, how to properly tie breasts, and how to do a correct neck tie. Then they take you through how to do an expert Japanese box tie, and how to finish it off into an “Ebi” tie. Then learn the correct way to cinch off your ties by demonstrating a great chair tie.

This bonus tutorial will improve your rope skills and help you in your play with your partners. Enjoy!

[posted originally at CatalinaLoves.com]

Tags: Bondage, Bondage Tutorial, Breast Bondage, Christina Carter, Ebi, Elbow Tie, Hair Bondage, hogtied, Hogtied dot com, Japanese Box Tie, Lochai, Rope Bondage, Tutorial, Wrist Tie

She dialed his number and crossed her fingers. Ring one. Ring two. Ring three. Ring four. Then his message telling her that he wasn’t available but asking her to leave a message anyway. She started to hang up but decided against it.

“Hello, Sir. You know who this is and you know what I want. You know how to reach me, how to touch me, and how to make me do anything your heart desires. I was thinking of showing instead of telling but you’re not available. Call me when you are.”

She flipped her phone closed and pulled her robe tighter around her. She stared out the window and watched the falling leaves swirl and sway in the wind. It crossed her mind to have a bit of pride, to not let on how much the man had gotten to her but she was powerless against it. When she’d handed her submission to him, she’d handed him her heart as well.

The grandfather clock in the hall struck ten and she willed herself to move from the sofa. A November rain had dampened the city and soon snow would come in its place. She checked the lock on the front door, blew out the candles on the foyer table, and made her way into her room. She laid her phone on the nightstand and turned out the lamp. The robe slipped from her shoulders and onto the floor as she slipped between the cool cotton sheets. Since she met him she was only allowed to sleep nude and even if he wasn’t there to check up on her, she did as she was told. In a few minutes she was fast asleep.

She awoke with with a start, completely aware of the scent of leather and the tightness about her wrists. She tried to scream but couldn’t. Gagged. Someone had gagged her. Mentally she wondered if she had forgotten to lock her door then she wondered who would have gagged her.

“I’m sorry to have awakened you. I tried to fuck you in your sleep but you fought me.”

The whisper in her ear made her tremble in fear, but as his face came into view she was relieved. It was him. Instead of calling he had come to her. He had used the key she had given him when she moved in. She relaxed a little more but couldn’t help but wonder what he had in store for her. It wasn’t like him to show up unannounced in the middle of the night.

“Don’t try to figure it out. You won’t. The things I do have little to do with reason or rationality. They have everything to do with my desires. MY desires. Not yours. And it is my desire to see you bound and gagged because perhaps then you will see that you are the mouse and I am the cat. You are my slut, my plaything. Though it certainly is flattering that a beautiful whore such as yourself desires me, I do not care what you desire. That is not why I chose you.” With that he moved his face closer to hers and stared into her eyes. “I chose you because you were easy. You willingly gave yourself to me.”

He stood upright and clasped his hands behind his back. His gaze traveled the length of her naked body then back again. His eyes met hers and she quickly looked away. Without a word he left the room and left her as she was.

She struggled against the gag. Her bladder was full and holding it when she was scared was proving to be a challenge. She jerked and thrust against the gag with her tongue, trying without success to spit it out. His footsteps echoed down the hall and she stilled. Without looking up she knew he was back in the room.

“Do not struggle. Do not speak. Knowing you as I do, I’m certain your bladder is full to overflowing. Right now you’re wishing for a small reprieve so that you may use the bathroom, so that you may piss in that respectable little girl fashion with the water running and the door pulled shut behind you. And wish for it you may, but you won’t get it. Instead I have placed a towel beneath you. Under the towel is a rubber pad to keep from ruining those cotton sheets you love so much. You, my dear little cock tease are to piss right where you lay.”

She swallowed hard and tried for the briefest moment to convince herself that she had misheard him. She couldn’t possibly urinate in front of him, much less on her bed. As she struggled to tell him no, to be heard through the gag, she was aware of his movements.

The flogger landed on her breasts and she cried out. Not from pain but from surprise. They hadn’t discussed floggers or the possibility of their use. Her mind couldn’t process it quickly enough and she felt a second blow land on her other breast. He smiled a soft smile and placed a rubber ball in her hand.

“You were told to piss. You will receive alternating strikes to each breast until you do as you were told. It humiliates you, I know. It will also humble you and remind you of your place. In the event that you feel as if this is too much for you, you are required to use the ball as you would use your safe word. Drop it if you can’t handle doing what your Master has told you to do.”

She cried but she knew she could not drop the ball. She was not being harmed. She trusted him even when he surprised her with his actions. He had been patient with her and when they discussed taking things further she had agreed. With her mind made up she closed her eyes and willed herself to urinate.

“That’s my good girl. That’s my pet. It feels much better now, doesn’t it? To have released the piss that made you so uncomfortable. Your punishment is almost complete but you must listen carefully. In addition to what you have just done, to the blows you have received, there are two more parts to your punishment. Look at me!”

The seriousness in his voice alone would have made her look at him. Their eyes met and she knew that he was demanding the most of her. She saw his love and respect for her shining through the bright blue of his eyes and her heart swelled with love.

“You will receive ten more blows on various parts of your body. When I am finished with the final blow I will remove your gag. I will then fuck you in a way that I have never fucked you before, pet. I will lube your delectable little pucker and fuck your ass. I will take my time and I will be as gentle as I can. You can be assured that I will enjoy having the ass that belongs to me. However, as before, if it is more than you are willing to do or if it causes you an intense amount of pain and absolutely no pleasure, you are to drop the ball. I will enjoy hearing you scream and beg while I fuck you. So the ball is to continue you to be your safe word. Is that understood?”

She swallowed hard and nodded. She felt the bed shift under his weight as he knelt between her legs. The flogger landed twice against each of her thighs then twice more against each of her arms. The final two blows from his flogger landed squarely on the lips of her exposed cunt. She was ashamed at the expletives that she had yelled.

She heard him lay down the flogger and wondered if he would be gentle. He took the gag from her mouth and kissed her deeply before rocking back on his knees. The slick coolness of the lubricant caused her to gasp out loud. She moaned as his fingers teased and probed her hole gently.

“My cock is hard for you, slut. It is my ass to fuck and fuck it I will.”

With the head of his cock pushing past the entrance of her virgin ass and his hands spreading her legs wide she felt as if she might be ripped in two. She wasn’t tiny but his cock was huge in comparison to her puckered hole. A scream tore from her lips and her breathing was erratic.

“You feel so good, pet. Your tight little hole stretched around my throbbing cock. Can you feel it, whore? Can you feel how hard you make me? How bad I want you?”

She bit her lip and tasted blood. Her nipples were hard and she felt the initial pain start to subside. His fingers rubbed her clit and she could feel the wetness of her cunt mingled with the urine that was left on her labia. It was a heady combination and she couldn’t help but beg for him to fuck her.

“That’s it, whore. Beg for my cock. Open your eyes and watch me as I fuck your ass. Smell the scent of us, slut.”

With one last thrust he buried his cock in her ass. As he emptied his seed into her bowels the tears fell from her eyes and she felt her own climax take hold. The higher they climbed the faster she fell. “I love you, Master! I fucking love you!” The sobs wracked her body and she felt his cock slip from her newly stretched ass.

He laid against the length of her and loosened the leather at her wrists. His warmth blanketed her as his lips found hers. He gathered her to him and held on tightly. She knew she was coming down and she knew he was there to catch her.

“I love you too, pet. I love you too.”

He gathered her from the bed and half carried, half ushered her to the bathroom. As the tub filled she sat on his lap with her head against his chest and listened to the beat of his heart. He kissed the top of her head then turned them both around to slip into the hot water.

“I love you, pet. You know who I am and you know what I want. You know how to reach me, how to touch me, and how to make me do anything your heart desires. I got your message, but I wanted to show instead of tell.”

*This is a work of fiction…even if I wish it were not.

Cross-posted from thebutterflytemptress.com

Tags: anal sex, Bondage, Dom, Fetish, Hot Couples, Kink, Love, Relationships, Sex, Sex Blog, Sexual Fantasies, Submissive, The Butterfly Temptress

This shot is not just of me, but I think nicely sums up the whole Folsom Experience.

Yes, that’s a guy holding his dick behind my head. No, I have no idea he’s there. (My Master thought this was very funny!) Many guys walk around the fair entirely naked, or wearing just a cock-ring, or nipple rings, or a collar. Not many women do! Happily, most of the naked guys are gay, which means they don’t bother me at all — I think gay men should romp naked in the streets at every possible opportunity! But for some reason, the kinds of straight guys who choose to wander around naked are always the kinds of guys who just come off as a little slimy, the not cool kind of perverts.

Although I must say that this year I didn’t get my ass grabbed when we were in the crowd — people really seemed more polite this year. Folsom gets really crowded — there are parts of the street where it’s just a seething mass of people, with not more than two inches in between them, and all are pushing and shoving to get in their desired direction, which is generally the completely opposite one from the people around them! It’s pure chaos, but as you look around you, people are dressed in leather and latex and schoolgirl outfits and ponygirl gear and uniforms and, well, every fetish there is (including the guys walking around naked) and it’s really an amazing experience.

Anyway, in the shot above, I was just in between taking pictures. Here’s a couple of the shots I was taking. Since the “which do you like best post I did last week was so well received, I’ll ask your artistic opinions again, do you like the first one or the second one best?
Continue reading “Folsom Street Fair pictures”

Tags: BDSM, Bondage, corset/girdle, digital photography, Events, folsom street fair, Kink, pictures, r/l scenes, stockings/heels

Recently I interviewed Kink.com CEO Peter Acworth. I think the man is an absolutely kinky genius and I have a huge crush on him. I watched the documentary on BehindKink.com and I read an extensive article written about my favorite CEO in the New York Times and then I came up with a few questions of my own:

You’ve mentioned that acquiring the Armory was like your idea of a bondage fantasy neverneverland, where the rules of normal society are overridden by the rules of the BDSM society. After getting all unpacked and moved in, does it still feel like a fantasy neverneverland? Have you found it restraining or confining that it is a historical site?

The Armory feels like a dream come true. Bondage literature such as “The Story of O”, “Exit to Eden”, and the “Sleeping Beauty” series by Anne Rice always seem to revolve around a central place where the BDSM rules of dominance and submission preside. This space is usually depicted as a castle, and so when we were looking to relocate Kink.com’s central offices, the fact that there was an affordable castle that had been vacant for 30 years in the middle of fetish capital San Francisco felt like nothing less than divine intervention.

I think people are somewhat surprised by how ‘normal’ things seem. We have sexual harassment training, executive strategic retreats, benefits like 401K, annual reviews and all-hands presentations just like any company our size. So if you were to come to see us work at the Armory, you might be disappointed by a somewhat corporate feel to the place. However, as we build our various sets, the space is fast becoming an adult playground. This is especially true in the basement which is becoming a myriad of various dungeons and fantasy rooms.

I am very excited by our 4th floor development. This will be a space that we are calling “Roissy” (from the Story of O), and it will be a 24×7 live reality show set in the Edwardian era, which was a period of decadence following the oppressive reign of Queen Victoria. The idea is to reproduce the ‘Great House’ structure depicted in films like “Remains of the Day” where masters, mistresses and servants live in a tightly regimented regime. We will invite BDSM lifestyle players to interact in this world, and interact with our customers in this perpetual interactive live show.

The Armory dates from exactly this Edwardian era, so the historical nature of the Armory does nothing but add to the mystique surrounding this idea. The Armory is not only Kink.com’s home – it also serves as a wonderful branding tool.

In the documentary on BehindKink.com, a lot of the people who work at Kink.com mention that they are inspired to be as creative as they can be and most mention having learned more on the job than they could have ever imagined. Do you see Kink.com as a revolutionary company where people actually like to go to work? Was this part of your plan from the beginning, to create an environment where people were encouraged to grow, think, and use their educations?

I think that we provide a work environment which stands by our mission statement and is very all inclusive. For instance, its absolutely fine to be gay, transgendered, or to paint your hair red or have lots of tattoos, and to really be who you are. I can’t imagine life any differently, and I sometimes get a rude awakening when friends remind about life inside investment banks, where, heaven forbid, I once considered working.

We also feel passionately that a product line should come from an individual’s actual fantasies. Since we have an open policy about new product proposals, this encourages employees to be creative and, necessarily, to be open about their sexualities. This atmosphere sometimes creates some challenges for our HR team, but I think it is very healthy and motivating.

You’ve said that you essentially saw a good idea and ripped it off - the idea to sell porn on the internet from a firefighter and the name Hogtied from the magazine Hogtie. It seems to me that a lot of other companies are doing the same to Kink.com, at least trying to rip off the Kink.com model. How do you feel about that?

I find it flattering and it doesn’t bother me (indeed, how could it? That would certainly be hypocritical of me). Companies have and will copy our basic business model and I hope they continue to do so. The fact is that all people who produce quality BDSM material generally share a common interest in the subject matter. I can’t speak for everyone in the industry, but I feel an affinity to others in the business. Additionally, a prevalence of good BDSM material indicates a general recognition and acceptance that the BDSM fantasies are healthy, common, and absolutely nothing to be ashamed of. I.e. I feel that more successful companies like kink.com serve to further demystify alternative sexualities which, in turn, serves all of us.

On a business level, I think we are sufficiently ahead of the competition to be the ‘place to watch’ for innovation for the next decade. While companies may copy our basic style of producing content, I think we are ahead of the game with our fresh content lines and our ideas for community and interactive live shows, such as Roissy.

Obviously Hogtied.com is your “baby” and though you’ve had several guest directors, really it’s been you and then Matt as the visionaries. How do you see Lochai fitting into your vision for Hogtied.com? Did you choose him in part because you appreciate the aesthetic of his rope bondage? It seems to me that you are incorporating the artistic side of bondage with the hardcore domination reputation of Hogtied.com. How did you come to your decision?

I interviewed Lochai for a different project named “Bondage Trials” about 4 years ago. At that time I was very impressed with his ropework and sense of detail and aesthetic. I am extremely pleased that he has chosen to join us to take on Hogtied.com! The beauty of BDSM is that everyone has a different style. Lochai is a fabulously talented rigger with a unique style, and I think he will be another great addition to the team.

How has Kink weathered the 2257 maelstrom, and do you think a change in administration will loosen things up?

Like many companies, we were caught up in the frenzy of panic that engulfed the industry during the Bush Administration. There was a period when the 2257 law was changing so frequently that it was difficult to keep up, and we had several staff members doing nothing but working on compliance.

Luckily, we had always been diligent and kept our records clean, and we are large enough to have a properly indexed database which could keep up with the changes in the law. It was very sad to see some BDSM websites close down because the burden of record keeping was too onerous. Recently though, the 2257 law has been deemed unconstitutional by the 6th circuit. My hope is that the law will get rewritten in a format which is sensible, and that there will be reasonable regulation to ensure minors are not depicted without having a chilling effect on free speech.

Thank you, Peter, for making some time for me! Best of luck to Lochai, who begins his new job tomorrow at Hogtied.com.

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Sgt. Major might be better known as the Kink.com dom with the mask on. He’s made more than a few appearances at Kink.com and has just recently done a shoot with Nika Noire. What you might not know is that the Sarge has his own site and makes his own content. Where does Claire Adams go when she wants to hand over her power? To BackdoorBondage.com, where Sarge gave her what she needed. It is really a sublime scene. Lucky Catalina - I get to talk to Sarge and Maya Matthews on a regular basis, so I asked a few questions I thought you might be interested in knowing.

How did you end up working with Kink.com? Do you still work with them?

I met Matt Williams at Bondcon 2003 in Vegas. He and I became very dear friends and when they tried to start Bondage Trials I applied for it and have been guest rigging for them ever since that time. I still to go out from time to time to guest rig for them they are like a second family to me. But it is really important for people to know that I have my own place that allows me to do the things that I really love them most. I try to keep my bondage as close to H.O.M. as possible.

From where does the Sgt. Major persona originate?

Well after over two decades in the Martial Arts I refuse to call myself Master. I think the word is over used in Martial Arts training as well as the BDSM lifestyle. So I picked the one rank in the military that even the officers would not fuck around with. I have never served, but have a great deal of respect for those that do. Hence I decided on the term Sgt. Major.

Do you and Maya Matthews live a 24/7 lifestyle?

Yes, she is the air that I breathe. For me, without her, life would have no color. We have a slave manual and view it as a living document. Our lifestyle is very well suited to how we want to live.

Where does Backdoorbondage.com come from? How would you describe your content? Who are the major players?

Backdoor Bondage was actually Maya’s idea because she knows I am such an ass man and love to tag hot women in the ass as I clamp one hand around their throat and the other over their mouth. I used to have Bondage Barrix and wanted to redefine my style to look a bit more streamlined.

Maya and myself are the primary players. I have become really close with many of the models that we work with. Amber Rayne will be on out site as long as she wants to be along with other girls. John Blakemore is a huge player on my site even though he will not appear on film. It’s hard to believe that the father of modern bondage or the main man from H.O.M. is my friend and actually takes the time to help me out.

What is the main difference between your work with Backdoorbondage.com and Kink.com as you see it?

Well at Backdoorbondage.com I don’t have as many shooting rules. I will do more with abductions and tend to let a girl cry if she wants to go there. Working at Kink.com has allowed me to do some of my best work ever because of the manpower there. I can just rig and when I am done I walk off the set - I don’t have to coil rope or clean dildos or ass hooks. At my place I am a jack-of-all-trades.

I guess I like to get more physical with the girls at my place because the only one I have to answer to is Maya. When I shot Sarah Jane Ceylon for my site she had huge bruises on her inner thighs for over two weeks. I could never do that at Kink.com because the talent department would snap their collective feet off in my ass.

Why the mask? Do you have a mask fetish?

Two words, vanilla fuckers. I wear it now because Maya loves it and says that it really makes me different. At first it was because I did not want people in my community to know, now it’s more about the guy behind the mask could be anyone. Many women like it because it allows them to fantasize about any man abducting them. Many people have spoken out about it, but they can go fuck themselves because it caught Maya’s attention. If I were ever to work for a company like Kink full time I would take it off, but right now I think its different and with all sorts of fluffy shit being produced these days, different is not so bad.

I notice you doing more abduction/rape fantasy scenes, is that something new or something newly revisited?

Rape fantasy and abduction finds its way into every sexual fantasy I have. This is not recent at all and I would have gone deeper into this, but the far right wing and their desire to jamb their views down people’s throats caused me to stop doing it. Nowadays the credit card processors can also fuck with a guy for doing it, so I have to be careful. Make no mistake about it, if I get the chance I want to keep going with it and go deeper into edge play. There is a reason why most women have a forced sex fantasy - they don’t want to really be raped, but they do want to be forced on their own terms - at least the chicks I fuck like it, my sweet Maya loves it.

Do you make the content for Backdoorbondage.com in your home, have a compound (like IntotheAttic.com), or do you shoot in a studio?

When ever I go out to shoot for Kink I always shoot in San Fransisco, sometimes we fly models in and we shoot in the basement of our home. I love the old warehouse or construction site look. I really have to watch what I am doing because the vanilla folks where I live would not understand. About the only place I really don’t want to shoot anymore is a hotel room, I think that really screams new guy.

If you had a magic genie and could make three wishes, which three women would you like to see appear at your doorstep?

Well given the fact that they would agree to be bound and molested, shit Sara Palin does not do it for me so i guess I would have to say… I hate to say this, but now that Brittany is working out again and appears to be getting her collective wits back, i would love to put an ass hook in her and tie it off to a hair tie, my guess is that she would look great hogtied.

Alicia Sacromone is 20 years old and fair game, she is one hell of a sexy gymnast.

I would really like to put Jessica Alba in some real bondage not that shit she has been featured in, bitch needs a crotch rope not that fluffy goddamn glam shit.

Do you see a conflict between being a big, badass Dom and also being a loving and caring partner in a relationship?

No only people with small dicks think that way, a Dom does say sorry or I was wrong or I love you. Let’s be fucking clear about this one, the power is given to us, that means that subs have the power. Try hanging some vanilla bitch from you rafters and taking a flogger to her pussy then ass fucking her. Then get ready to spend the next 20 years of your life not dropping the soap in prison.

A scene is all about respect. That does not make me a service top in any way either. You talk to any bitch who have ever played with me, I mean really played, and they will tell you I can get really physical and very aggressive. At the same time they can shut the interaction down with a safe word and be as safe as a babe in mom’s arms. I do not allow myself to be topped from the bottom, so if that starts I will get into a girl’s shit quickly. But on the same hand, I am not the type to think that Doms have some special status just because they are Doms. If a guy is strong enough to be gentle and knows when to turn up the heat, most likely he can read his sub and that means to me he is keyed into energy and realizes that people have different needs that change constantly… well I guess he would be OK in my book.

Is there a connection between the discipline and power structure of Martial Arts and the discipline and power structure of D/s?

Its been said that in order to be a good top you have to have been on the bottom. I guess that is where I have been on the bottom doing Budo training (martial arts). Respect is key in both areas and power comes in many forms.

Soft does not mean weak, and if someone thinks that way they to me are clearly a knuckle dragging asshole. All the people I work with are very attractive women who could be view as soft. If you know anything about this lifestyle you know subs are not weak, indeed they are some of the strongest fucking people I have ever known.

Now apply that same concept to Budo training, there are some guys who think soft is not good, to me they are clueless dumbshits. You take a tire iron and I will take a bamboo escrima stick, and I will kill you dead as Julius Caesar, that’s a promise. Fuck, there are way too many similarities to get into because they lifestyle and Budo are almost the same. People come into both seeking something, and all too often someone with too little knowledge who takes themselves way to seriously has to lord their power over others to try and justify a tiny dick.

I heard through the kinkvine that you are writing a book. What’s that about and how is that coming along?

Indeed! it is going to be the accounts of a young boy turned man and his love of bondage. The pathway of my journey has allowed me to spend time with the best people I have ever met in my life, including Maya. She is actually the one that inspired me to do it. In short I am going to chronicle the ascension of a guy from Vanillaville, USA into the world of BD/SM porn. I used to be a card-carrying Republican and a homophobe. Well, that has all changed to a point where I needed to let those poor dumb trapped bastards in Vanillaville know that tying up women and beating there asses is a good thing. The journey is understanding that and finding the women who want it done to them. The title speaks volumes about the book but I can’t give it away at the current time. I have big plans but its going to take a ton of work that will reflect a shit load of humor and some sorrow that I hope some people can avoid as they find their way.

And finally, since I am obsessed with cereal, I asked him, “What is your favorite cereal,” to which he replied, “I love shredded wheat, frosted naturally.” I love Sgt. Major - I, too, love shredded wheat, frosted! We should have no problem deciding on breakfast in the morning when our paths cross.

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