Jan 06 2009

Pleasurists #11

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Pleasurists is your round-up of the adult product reviews that came out in the last seven days from bloggers all around the sex blogosphere. Did you miss Pleasurists #10? Read it all here. Do you have a review for Pleasurists #12? Submit it here before Sunday January 11th at 11:59pm PST. Please re-post this list on your own blog if listed.

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On to the reviews…

Editor’s Pick

Madame Editrix
Scarlet Lotus Sexgeek

Vibrators

Dildos

Anal Toys

Toys for Boys

Sex Kits

Lube/Massage Oil/Bath Stuff

BDSM/Fetish

Adult Books/Games

Adult Movies/Porn

Toy Storage

Miscellaneous

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Jan 01 2009

Out With The Old, In With The New

Do I need crazy? Do I want crazy? Ask me one minute, I’ll give you one answer. Ask me another and you’ll get a different one.

I have thought about what to write for my New Year’s post and if I even wanted to recall 2008 at all. I ushered in that year as a first class passenger riding the crazy train. I spent the first half of 2008 trying to find my way and knowing that I needed to get off that crazy train if I was ever going to be happy again.

The quote above is something Tess had written in her New Year’s post last year and like so many things that Tess writes it really struck home with me. It became my constant companion those first few months of the year with all of the crazy things that were going on in my life.

One of the best things I did in 2008 was start therapy. I found a wonderful therapist who has helped me tremendously this year. My only regret is that I spent several months in the beginning not telling her the full truth of what was really going on in my life. Once I opened up and was totally honest with her everything for me changed.

I think the turning point for me this year was my trip to California with Tess over 4th of July. It gave me the space and time I needed to make the decisions in my life that I knew all along but couldn’t find the strength for.

August found me in the center of a blogstorm when after Dacia, Rachel and Tess all spoke out about Jefferson aka Onelifetaketwo I also made the decision to do the same. I then did something I always thought and said I would never do and that was talk about my true relationship with Jefferson which you can read about here, here and here. Since that time I have often said that the only thing good about my relationship with Jefferson was the sex. Thankfully I have since come to know that even that was mediocre at best.

Many things changed for me in September when Tess came up with the brilliant idea to create the NYC Sex Bloggers Calendar as a benefit for Sex Work Awareness. My world was opened up to an entirely new CommUNITY of people and companies. I found many new friends and saw the wonderful things that this CommUNITY could do when we all worked together.

I learned that not only did I have nice legs but I had some nice cleavage too. All thanks once again to my friend Tess.

In November we had our calendar launch party that was a huge success although some of the best stories came from the after party later at our hotel. I got the best foot rub I have ever had and made some life long friends that night. My only regret is that I didn’t win that damn Eleven from Njoy our major sponsor of the calendar. I also found myself somewhere that in a million years I would never have dreamed of. Time Out - New York.

December was extremely busy for me between the upcoming holiday’s and working on promoting and selling the calendar. It was also an emotional month when I attended the SWP holiday meet and greet and the sex workers vigil. They both left their mark on me.

Now it is 2009 and time to look at the future. 2008 was one of the most difficult years I have had in my life. There were some wonderful things I found in 2008 with all the new friends I made and the things I discovered about myself but with that came a lot of pain, hurt and sadness. I hope to never have a year like that again. There are many new changes in my future now that I am finally headed in the right direction. Some will be just as difficult as the ones in 2008 but the difference is that these are all positive changes that will hopefully lead me to happiness.


Dec 09 2008

My Reason Why

I have touched on this a little bit in a few posts that I have written recently but after reading Dacia’s latest post on both her blog and Bound Not Gagged I wanted to say something more about my personal reasons for being involved with the NYC Sex Bloggers Calendar.

Tess had come up with the idea to create the calendar which I thought was a great thing for all of us together to do but it was choosing who would benefit from the sales of the calendar that was most important. I didn’t get involved and do all of this work for page loads, name recognition or the media I have received. I did it because it was something that personally touched my life and I believed in which all basically started from an email I received from Dacia before the calendar was ever a thought.

I had written what I considered one simple sentence in a post but it struck her deeply. She sent me an email about what I had written and asked me some questions. She gave me some things to think about and boy did I. We have had several conversations since then on this and what I realized is that what I wrote was coming from something more personal in my life at that moment yet it was a blanket statement towards all sex workers. It also showed me that my only impression or knowledge of sex workers was from both the media and entertainment industry.

It was shortly after this that the calendar idea came up and Sex Work Awareness was chosen as the organization that would benefit. My passion and drive on this is because it is something I not only believe in but am actual proof of. Because of my life as a blogger it has given me the opportunity to meet and get to personally know sex workers. I was fortunate that I had someone like Dacia who spent the time discussing my views and knowledge of sex workers. I don’t think she ever realized what that one email would do for me or that I would not hesitate to email her for more knowledge. As this project went on Dacia would find herself the recipient of emails from me in my quest for more information about Sex Work Awareness and sex workers. I think we might have surprised each other in the end.

I also had women like Rebecca and Catalina in my life whom I saw first hand what can happen when the people around you are close minded and uneducated about sex workers. How the stigma associated with sex workers can affect their entire lives.

It was two days before Rebecca’s trip to NYC last month that she told me she would have to cancel because of what was going on in her life. She had been forced to leave where she was living with her family after being outed for being an escort. Tess and I worked our magic and made sure Rebecca joined us in NYC that weekend because as I said to Rebecca on the phone as we talked about what had happened, it was women like her that we were doing all of this work for. To be able to change the opinions of people and remove the stigma associated with being a sex worker. Rebecca was the classic example of one of the risks sex workers face in their lives.

I looked at my own life that was so similar in many ways to the life Rebecca and Catalina had with her families. We all were struggling to raise our children. Rebecca and I both belonged to the PTA and had been girl scout leaders. We never hesitated to volunteer at our children’s schools yet just as Rebecca was shunned once it was revealed she was an escort I know that there are many people in my community that would treat me exactly the same if my friendships with sex workers and fund raising for SWA was revealed. I would be stigmatized just for my association with sex workers.

By me writing one small line in a post and Dacia sending me that one email many things have resulted. I was one person who was able to see a different view and in turn put my energy into working towards others seeing the same.

Now just like Elizabeth did yesterday I would ask that you all also do something to help us make December “Sex Workers Awareness” month. You don’t need to know a sex worker personally to write about sex workers or show support for our calendar. As Dacia said:

I know that a conversation or an email thread with one person seems like a tiny thing. And throwing in $20 towards a calendar seems tiny too - but the sex worker activist movement is small, and every little bit counts.

This is a small difference and hopefully our contribution can help SWA accomplish their goal as outlined in their mission statement but we have to start somewhere and for me it stated with an email.

Mission Statement

We believe that all sex workers have a right to self-determination; to choose how we make a living and what we do with our bodies.

We aim to empower our diverse community by building the capacity of sex worker-serving and sex worker member-based institutions as well as the skills and resources of sex workers themselves.

We also conduct research about sex workers and the sex industry in order to better understand it, develop public education initiatives, and advocate for the rights of sex workers.

You never know when something you do or say can change someones views and opinions. A $20 donation to SWA when you purchase our calendar will go to helping SWA achieve their mission statement.


Dec 03 2008

Diva Loves Catalina

There have been several people who have impacted my life over these last months and Catalina is one of them. As I have previously written I became aware of Catalina when she posted the appeal for her daughter this past summer. At the time I was going through a rough patch in my life and was not sure if I wanted to continue writing my blog.

Seeing the outpouring of support for Catalina was wonderful. It showed me an entirely different view of what this blogging commUNITY was capable of. From that point on I became a regular reader of Catalina’s many blogs.

It would be a few weeks later that Tess and I would start working on the NYC Sex Bloggers Calendar. Tess had asked Catalina’s advice on many of the ideas and decisions we had and before we knew it Catalina was on board as not only a full supporter of the project but also donated all her PR work for it.

Over the course of these past few months I have been lucky to get to know her even better. I watched as Catalina would offer her help to anyone in this community who needed it. I saw all she did to help Butterfly with both emotional and financial support these past months and the differences she has made.

I refer to Catalina as the hardest working blogger I know. Without her knowledge, guidance and hard work this calendar would not be the success it is. Catalina helped us to contact sponsors, sell days on the calendar and worked with me almost every morning in those beginning weeks to come up with new marketing plans for all of this.

What I find really special about all of this is that Catalina did not know Tess or I when she got involved in this. She didn’t do it to help out a couple of her friends but did it because it was something she fully believed in as not only something good this commUNITY together could accomplish but also her support of Sex Work Awareness.

This experience and getting to know Catalina along with many others showed me a different perspective of this commUNITY than what I knew all those months prior. It showed me that there are many individuals in this commUNITY who will not hesitate to jump in and offer their help expecting nothing in return for it. I saw many people involved in this project who volunteered their time to help make all of this happen without being concerned with promoting themselves. Overall this experience was amazing to see what all of us working together could accomplish.

As I got to know Catalina better I found we had things in common in our personal lives and that we thought alike on many issues. There were days we talked about sex toy raffles, free porn and what our kids would have for dinner. We jumped from one subject to another without having a problem following each other.

With Catalina’s advice and guidance we all worked together to sell almost 300 days on the calendar within a 10 day period. That was remarkable considering no one had even heard of this calendar until we launched our blog.

We were creative with marketing ideas and nothing was off limits. I think our best idea was when we made Tess wear turtlenecks and withhold her Cleavage of the Day pictures until enough days were sold. Our marketing of this calendar was even praised in another blog post.

After so many months knowing each other only online I would finally get to meet Catalina in person along with Rebecca when I picked them all up at Tess’s house to head into the city for our party.

It was big smiles and hugs when we met and the laughs never ended until we parted ways the next day. There were many great memories of my weekend with Catalina and everyone else but a few special ones stand out for me.

One was within five minutes of us meeting when Catalina turned to me after hearing Tess and I discussing the last minute details of the party and told me how sorry she felt for me acting as Tess’s assistant all those months. She finally understood that slave relationship I kept talking about. I think it was at this point when she first offered me meds.

Another great memory was our 3am pizza run. Somehow I ended up going out for pizza with Catalina and the guys from Njoy in the LES at 3am. I don’t remember who came up with the idea but I think we all decided to blame Match for it because he had pizza delivered to our room at one point that night.

By 3am I was already in my pajamas when we decided to go. I thought about my last visit to the LES and the girl who was walking around with nothing on other than a strap on. I figured I would be sufficiently dressed with what I had on.

You might wonder what do two sex bloggers and the owners of the best sex toy company talk about over pizza at 3am. I found myself in a packed pizza restaurant discussing design, marketing, sales, sex toys and sex. At one point a young (drunk) woman walked over to borrow our cheese. As she stood there weaving and looking down at us Greg told her Catalina and I were sex writers. There was no response from her other than more weaving. She then proceeded to borrow our salt and Greg once again spoke to her telling her the rest of them made sex toys. Again, there was no response from her. She returned our salt and stumbled away. So much for that exciting life of a sex blogger we have.

There were many things I would learn about Catalina that weekend. One was that she doesn’t like to get out of bed. Catalina likes her beauty sleep. That must be the reason she is so gorgeous. The next morning she was true to that and was still in bed while the rest of us were up, packed and ready. I’m not complaining about that because it did give me the opportunity to crawl into bed with her one last time.

Another thing I learned is that Catalina likes to over pack. I don’t know if it was the cold she was worried about or if she thought she was going on a three week safari but Catalina must have emptied out her closet when she left home for that four day visit. If anyone needed a corset for the party she had it. I needed a sweater and flip flops for our pizza run. She had it. I was waiting to see Marky D. Sade next climb out of that suitcase.

The last thing I discovered about Catalina is don’t take your eyes off your plate if she is sitting across from you. I was busy watching the make out session with everyone at brunch and when I glanced back down again my pancake seemed to have disappeared. (That could explain how she gained those 5 lbs in NYC)

In closing I want to say I am very grateful that not only have I gotten to know Catalina but now also have her as a good friend in my life. This past summer when I was at a point that I questioned what the hell was wrong with people I came across someone like Catalina who just like Tess will do anything to help anyone out. She has both a big heart and a huge amount of energy which she does not hesitate to put to good use for others in this commUNITY.



Nov 23 2008

PayPal and Sex

Some of you may have noticed with have moved from selling our calendar through PayPal to Audacia Ray’s store on her site Waking Vixen.  This change was made last Monday after our account had been put on review for the second time by PayPal.

Last Sunday we received an email from PayPal stating that our account was under review and they were requiring additional information for four transactions that occurred on October 1st, 2nd and 3rd.  We were able to provide the additional information they requested and our account was fully reinstated within the hour.   This however was the second review we had received since opening the account.  When we first opened this PayPal account we received a phone call from them questioning what exactly we would be selling.

We believe what has caused PayPal to twice now review our account is the word “sex” in both our email address and the actual calendar title.  Because of this we made the decision last Monday to move the purchase transactions over to Dacia’s store.  We were lucky that someone involved with this calendar already had a merchant account that made this possible.

It is obvious to us and many others in this community that PayPal is not good to use for anyone in the adult industry.  We were aware of others who had had their accounts frozen and their funds taken by PayPal for what PayPal felt was a violation for their TOS.  We did not think when we set up our Paypal account we would have this problem because there is no nudity in our calendar.  As a matter of fact our calendar shows less skin than the Sport Illustrated calendar does but we do not want to take the risk of having the funds in our account seized.


Nov 12 2008

Who Can Take The Njoy Eleven?

Tomorrow I leave for NYC for the 2009 Sex Blogger Calendar Launch Party and to hang out with some of the coolest women in the country for the weekend!  I’m unbelievably excited.  I’m going to somehow manage to get to Urban Gypsy’s office in Manhattan and then go home with her for our pre-party party with Beautiful Rebecca.  I’m in Sapphic heaven!

As if it weren’t enough that I plan to snuggle up right between these ungodly sexy women, Tess has been teasing me with her Njoy Eleven.  Since the moment I saw her review of the Njoy Eleven here on BestSexBloggers.com, I’ve wanted to try it out.  See for yourself, and you’ll know why.  Go ahead, click the review and it will open in a new window.

Now you may actually have thought to yourself, “Ick, you’re going to use someone else’s sex toys?” I thought that myself, and then Tess pointed out, “It’s stainless steel - easy to sterilize.” Oh, they are genius at Njoy!  Now the question is, how do we turn it into a competition and what is the prize for she who can take the Eleven?  Photographic evidence may be necessary.

I’ll let you know how it comes (ya, I know, but I had to).

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Nov 11 2008

Who The Hell Are These Hotties?

They are 12 of NYC’s sexiest women!  They are the official pin-up girls of the 2009 Sex Blogger Calendar.   Curious who is who?  Have you ever wondered what some of our very own Best Sex Bloggers look like?  I won’t give it away, but Em and Lo did!  Click on the image to go to Em and Lo’s Daily Bedpost interview with our own Urban Gypsy and learn a little about these sultry sex vixens, but before you do, try to guess who is who.  Your choices are:

Audacia Ray is a new media professional whose medium is sex. Over the past seven years, she has been a researcher and curator at the Museum of Sex, blogger for sites like Fleshbot and Naked City, author of the book Naked on the Internet, director of the award-winning porn film The Bi Apple, executive editor of $pread magazine, and adjunct professor at Rutgers University. She is also the vice president of Sex Work Awareness, the organization that will benefit from this calendar’s fundraising efforts. Her video podcast lives at LiveGirlReview.com and her blog WakingVixen turns five years old in 2009.

Desiree is a brainy, sexy, foodie, geeky, writer chick from New York who has always had an inclination toward the naughty. Sex is her absolute favorite topic of conversation and has been since way before she had any business conversing on the subject (starting at about age 2). She never backs down from a Scrabble challenge and once scored seventy six points with the word ‘clitoris’. She blogs about sex and culture and life at Baser Instincts

One fateful day, for better or worse, Diva, looking online for a momentary escape from her household chores, stumbled upon sex blogs. Her life hasn’t been the same since. Meeting up with a notoriously perverted blogger triggered a resurgence of sexuality frozen under layers of domesticity and monotony. She started Debauched Domestic Diva to record her new experiences and the conflicting emotions her weekly trips to New York City spurred. Writing her blog, slowly becoming a technical guru and being immersed in a new uber-cool circle of friends has given Diva the spark she was searching for that auspicious day.

Sociologist, blogger, and activist, Elizabeth Wood co-founded Sex In The Public Square as a place for academics, activists and people just plain interested in sex to talk about the intersections of sexuality and society. Dr. Wood writes about sex work, social justice, human rights, and is developing the idea of the “sex commons,” the space created by the increasing number of web sites and blogs where people can share sexual knowledge and expand sexual freedom.

Jamye Waxman, M.Ed is a writer, author, director, producer, host and sex-positive feminist. She is the former sex advice columnist for Playgirl Magazine, the author of “Getting Off: A Woman’s Guide to Masturbation” and the creator of the Personal Touch Video Series for Adam and Eve Pictures. Jamye has been dubbed the “nexxxt generation of sex educator” by wired.com and she is the President of Feminists for Free Expression.

Lux Alptraum serves as Editor of Fleshbot, Gawker Media’s blog about porn,sex, and the web, and Editor of Boinkology. Career highlights include founding and running That Strange Girl (the first altporn site to feature both male and female models), interning at Nerve, and keeping the masses educated about sex for the past ten years. Her writing has appeared in Time Out New York, Best Sex Writing 2008, and GOOD Magazine.

Having been trapped in a painfully awkward phase since, well, forever, with little more than one measly, anonymous kiss under her belt, Mariella’s gift to herself for that pivotal 21st birthday wasn’t the customary forty of Heineken, but the services of a professional pervert. With that pesky virginity thing taken care of, she served a brief stint in Nailing-Everything-That-Moves Land, but ultimately decided to dabble in debauchery on a significantly smaller scale. When she’s not getting lost in the subway or the swirling language of Faulkner, she’s stumbling blindly through basic human interaction, blogging every step of the way.

Rachel Kramer Bussel is a writer, editor, blogger, and reading series host. She has edited over 20 erotica anthologies, including Tasting Him, Tasting Her, Spanked, Rubber Sex, Dirty Girls, Crossdressing, and the non-fiction Best Sex Writing 2008 and 2009. She is Senior Editor at Penthouse Variations, hosts In The Flesh Reading Series, and is a former sex columnist for The Village Voice. She blogs at Lusty Lady and Cupcakes Take The Cake.

Marie “Riese” Lyn Bernard
is a freelance video-maker, journalist, blogger, vlogger, fictionist, copywriter, essayist, re-capper, and aspiring cyber-performance artist based in New York City. She blogs at “This Girl Called Automatic Win” and recaps homo-sexy television at “Automatic Straddle” and for “The L Word Online.” Her work has appeared in Marie Claire, Curve, OurChart, Nerve.com, Clean Sheets and Conversely as well as books including The Bigger the Better, the Tighter the Sweater: 21 Funny Women On Beauty, Body Image, and Other Hazards of Being Female, Dirty Girls, Best Women’s Erotica 2005, Best American Erotica 2007 and the Lambda Literary Award-winning Erotic Interludes 2: Stolen Moments.

Sinclair Sexsmith is a chivalrous kinky writer, queer butch top, and feminist sex educator in New York City. He runs Sugarbutch Chronicles, a personal writing exploration of sex, gender, and relationships, and attempts to celebrate queer theory, sexuality, gender, and culture in ways that are expansive rather than restrictive, liberating rather than limiting. Mr. Sexsmith has degrees in both creative writing and gender studies, and his poetry and erotica has been published in various places, including Best Lesbian Erotica.

Tess may be a New Yorker but she’s really a gypsy at heart. Albeit a gypsy who sees herself frolicking through the forest clad in garments from the season Givenchy was high on the peasant aesthetic, nimbly avoiding stray branches and skipping over rivulets while kicking up her Prada brown suede stilettos. Tess is truly the embodiment of an Urban Gypsy, the title of the blog where she writes dark and moody D/s themed erotica, reviews sex toys, shows off her generous cleavage and generally reveals too much information. Several of Tess’ oh-so-wrong-but-oh-so-right fantasies are scheduled to be published in upcoming erotica anthologies.

Twanna A. Hines is a New York-based writer, editor, blogger and sexpot. Her dating commentary has been heard on NPR, and details about her rendezvous have been printed in Glamour magazine. She has written about sex, dating, relationships, men, pop culture and celebrities for Huffington Post, Lifetime, Nerve, Gen Art, Fast Company and others. AOL placed her site, FUNKYBROWNCHICK.com, on their Black Voices list of best blogs. Twanna’s sites have also been mentioned in New York magazine and online at Gawker Media, EbonyJet, Vibe and elsewhere. She speaks English and Dutch fluently. Get down with the funky brown at Funky Brown Chick.

So how did you do?  Did you guess 10/12 correctly?  8/12? I’m curious, leave a comment, if you would!  And remember, when you buy a calendar, not only do you get twelve months of pin-up sexy, you are actually helping to support the Sex Worker Awareness project that was founded by a group of sex workers and their allies who, after working with $pread Magazine for several years, saw a need for deeper support and advocacy than a magazine can offer. The organization was created around the core belief that all sex workers have a right to self-determination; to choose how they make a living and what they do with their bodies.j

It’s a win-win in my book!  Something for me to put in my office and a way to contribute to my CommUNITY.  If you’re in NYC on November 14th (that’s in just a few days!) then plan to make an appearance at the party.  You can meet me (oh ya, and the pin-ups) and the first 100 to arrive have awesome gift bags.  I know, because I’ve somehow volunteered to help put them together and there is some amazing stuff in there!

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Nov 11 2008

Babeland Sex Toy Review - Doorjam Cuffs and Pinwheel

Category: Babeland, Reviews, Urban Gypsyurbangypsyt @ 2:18 pm

“Did you bring them,” he asks, his voice a low whisper, his warm breath falls from my ear cooling enough when it alights on my neck to make me shiver. Or perhaps it’s not his breath at all that makes me quiver but rather the torturous anticipation of just what I imagine he’ll be doing to me in a few short moments.

“Yes, baby,” I say, hoping he can’t detect the slight falter between the two words that conveys my anxiety. His smirk tells me he’s missed nothing. Anyway, he’s certainly more than aware of the immense ambivalence I feel at the thought of being restrained by him. I crave it intensely and fear it in equal measure.

I rise, clad in a layer of diaphanous black fabric that pushes my breasts up and out and flows softly to the rounded bottom of my ass. I bend as I remove the Doorjam Cuffs from Babeland from my bag, giving him a view of my moistening cunt from his perch on the hotel bed with its rough sheets and ugly generic comforter. The Pinwheel, also sent by Babeland, is safe for the moment, nestled in the leather pouch that protects it and me from inadvertent damage. I turn back towards him, see that his eyes have turned from warm and sparkling to cool and determined as he contemplates having me at his mercy with a spiky steel instrument in his grip. I’ve tested the Pinwheel on myself, pressing as hard as I dared, making it hurt as the sharp unyielding spokes rolled over the soft skin of my arms and thighs, but never hard enough to come close to breaking my skin. I’m not sure if it can’t or if I simply don’t have the desire, the will to hurt myself in that way even simply as a test.

He rises from the bed and meets me. When his hands close over my thin wrists, the fine hairs on my arms bristle, alive with the electricity that flows between us; the air seems to hum with static. The restraints dangle from my tightly closed fingers making slight metallic sounds as the rings that hold the Velcro cuffs to the nylon webbing bang into each other. My heart seems to stop for a moment as he holds me immobile, staring into my eyes and conveying the delight he takes in his sadism and my somewhat reluctant acceptance of it. Turning toward the bathroom door, he surveys it briefly, then slides the webbing over the door and closes it.

“Do you think they’ll hold me,” I ask.

“Let’s just see about that,” he answers, as he grasps the cuffs and pulls hard. The restraints remain in place even when he lifts his bare feet from the industrial grey carpet they bear his entire weight.

“Your turn, bitch” he says.

Bitch. The way he says that. Slowly. Deliberately. Never rushing; his breath remaining on those last consonants so that they reverberate or perhaps it’s merely that they linger, echoing over and over only in my head.

Goosebumps rise on my skin as my back presses against the cold door.

“Lift your arms,” he commands, and he secures my wrists inside the Velcro bindings.

The bindings are tighter than I’d imagined; I’d been sure I could get myself free of these but even as I wiggle my hands inside the cuffs trying to get some slack, they remain firm. I try sliding them closer together so that maybe I can use one hand to free the other. He looks on, his smile widening as he too realizes I am really not going to get free of these. The plastic tubing that hangs over the inside of the door keeping the restraints in place is also preventing them from sliding too far, making it impossible without a lot more time and effort to get my hands close enough together to be of use.

“Enough, you bitch. Stay the fuck still. Now.” The chill in his voice settles me and suddenly his arm snakes out, palm open and for a moment the room is black and star filled as the impact against my cheek registers, synapses firing rapidly in my brain. It’s as if a direct line to my cunt has been tapped into. I get wetter, slicker, wanting this, wanting him and knowing he’s going to make me wait before he fills me in the way I desire makes me even more desperate.

I watch helplessly as he unsheathes the Pinwheel from its leather pouch and rolls it along his arm. I find myself fixated on the whiteness of his teeth as his lips slide smoothly over the bright enamel and his features settle in a wide smile at the thought of the sharp points of the wheel in the most delicate places he can find on my body.

It’s a sweet torture. Delicate. At least at first. He starts by letting the wheel slide gently along the hard line of jaw bone, from under my ear to my chin and back up to the other ear. I shudder with the sensation, the slight edge of fear at the possibility that he could simply press harder and mark my face makes my sex spasm and leaves me dripping. My thighs press tightly together to enhance the sensation in my pulsing clit and I squeeze so tightly that I think I can climax before he lets the wheel touch even my breasts.

“Open your mouth. Stick out your tongue,” he orders.

I shake my head. No. But I know I will. And after he slaps me again and again, I do. I open my mouth, my tongue warming and wetting my lower lip, and he places the wheel there, rolling it over and over, pressing harder each time as the taste of steel suddenly on my tongue. I swallow hard when he takes it away, the metallic tang settling against the back of my throat.

Rough fingers push the top of my lingerie down and my breasts spill out. Gentle, long strokes along their sinuous curves leave me sighing. Harsh, short slashes over my nipples make me gasp as my nipples tighten and pucker in response. He forces my thighs apart running the pointed spokes up the inside of my thighs and I tremble, increasing his sadistic glee, as he nears the swollen lips of my sex. I hear a sharp inhalation and realize it’s me, and I hold that breath, afraid to exhale as the wheel connects briefly with my rigid clit.

He keeps it there, pressing harder, then easing up, then gently again until I am screaming, bucking, coming. My back arching away from the bathroom door so that only ass and shoulder blades are in contact with the smooth, cool surface. Finally, my body goes slack. Were it not for the restraints straining against my wrists, supporting my sagging body, I’d have fallen to the ground.

He stands back, his erection raging as he takes it in his hand and slides his fist back and forth along the throbbing, purple surface. It doesn’t take long before long white ropey strands of fluid spurt forth, covering my neck, my bare breasts and soiling the sheer fabric that floats over my torso. He stands still for long moments, panting as he takes in the sight of me covered in the corporeal evidence of his lust. Then he picks up the pinwheel from the tiny kitchenette’s counter top where it was hastily discarded and begins to walk towards the bed.

“Where are you going, baby? What are you doing? Let me loose,” I say.

He stops and looks back at me over his shoulder, his smile widening, “I think I’d like to have you tied up just like that for a little longer, bitch.”

The metallic sound of the pinwheel hitting the bedside table seems louder than it should be and I wonder how long it will be before its sharp bite makes me quiver again.


Nov 02 2008

NYC Sex Bloggers 2009 Calendar Party Countdown

Category: Urban Gypsyurbangypsyt @ 8:47 am


Our party is less than two weeks away, Friday, November 14th from 6:30 to 9:30, at White Rabbit, and we hope to see many of you there.  Get there early, we expect a crowd and only have 100 gift bags and we know you are going to want yours.

Due to popular demand, with your calendar purchase you can choose between tickets to Spank (or be spanked by) Rachel or to Touch Tess’ Tits.  We’re givers.

The raffle prizes keep growing thanks to so many wonderful supporters who believe in this project and believe that being sex-positive extends beyond the walls of their own bedrooms.  So check out the list on the About The Raffle page and see what you might win.  Raffle tickets are $2 for 1, $5 for 3 and $10 for 10.  Cash only.  Bring the green!

And since our calendar was shot at the fabulous NYC burlesque venue, The Slipper Room, what could be better than to bring a bit of va-va-va-voom directly to you.  Performing at the party are Jezebel Express, Weirdee Girl, The Luvley Rae, Darlinda Just Darlinda.  We’re hoping to lure one of our own pin ups into performing the burlesque act she’s been working on.  Have any ideas who that would be?  You’ll just have to wait and see!  And it will be so worth it.

And since so many of you are giving in so many ways, we’d like to ask for some volunteers to hand out gift bags, sell raffle tickets (scantily clad only need apply), refill our drinks (oops, how’d that get in there?) and generally make sure that chaos is somewhat contained.  If you’d like to help out, email me (urbangypsyt@gmail.com) or my able bodied assistant with the growing boobs, I mean, seriously, have you seen Diva’s recent HNT’s, (debaucheddomesticdiva@gmail.com).  If anyone wants to try their hand at DJ’ing and has an iPod full of super sexy music, bring it on.  Again, just email either of us.

We really want all of you out there to be at the party, but if you happen to be out of town, across the country, across the ocean or otherwise unable to attend, you can go to the Purchase A Calendar page and order yours now.  They will ship out after the party!

See you all soon…


Oct 19 2008

Mark Your Calendars Now: The NYC Sex Blogger Limited Edition 2009 Calendar Launch Party

See You At The Party!

See You At The Party!

Meet Me In New York City!!

Join us for the launch party and buy a copy of the NYC Sex Blogger 2009 Limited Edition Calendar on Friday, November 14, 2008 from 6:30 pm - 9:30pm at The White Rabbit (http://www.whiterabbitnyc.com).

Meet the bloggers who made it happen, and ask really nicely and you might even get your calendar signed. While admission to our party is FREE and open to the public, there will be a cash bar (with Happy Hour prices till 9PM), raffle tickets and calendars to purchase so please come prepared with some green to show your support and join in the fun.

Twelve of New York City’s most dynamic literary and sex positive women, along with photographer Stacie Joy, and the sex blogging CommUNITY have collaborated to create the New York City SexBlogger 2009 Limited Edition calendar in order to support Sex Work Awareness (http://www.sexwork101.com). Sex Work Awareness is an organization that trains sex workers in media skills and educates the public about issues that affect people who work in the sex industry. 12 of NYC’s finest writers, sex educators, film makers, and ordinary women are determined to see the stigma associated with sex work and workers removed.

Included in the calendar are Audacia Ray, Desiree, Diva, Elizabeth Wood, Jamye Waxman, Luz Alptraum, Mariella Ella, Rachel Kramer Bussel, Riese, Sinclair Sexsmith, Tess Danesi, and Twanna A. Hines. A full biography of each calendar model is available at http://sexbloggercalendar.wordpress.com/about.

The first 100 guests to arrive will receive a FREE gift bag from Babeland! Aside from amazing burlesque performers and organic orgasm-worthy cookies from FreeFoodsNYC, you can purchase your very own copy of the calendar. In addition, to supplement our fundraising efforts we will have a raffle, and we encourage you to buy a raffle tickets. $2 for 1, $5 for 3 and $10 for 10 will give you a chance to win prizes that include an Njoy Eleven, a Liberator Ramp, a Liberator Throe, a Rolling Toy Trunk from ForYourNymphomation, and a Museum Signed Print “Ally Bound” by Lochai. The list grows daily. A complete list will be posted on the calendar blog (http://www.sexbloggercalendar.wordpress.com).

If you are unable to attend the launch party, you can still buy your limited edition copy of the calendar directly through the Sex Blogger Calendar website or here on BestSexBloggers.com (look to the right).

About the NYC Sex Blogger 2009 Limited Edition Calendar:
For the latest news, a complete list of bios of each sex blogger featured in the calendar, our sponsors, and our CommUNITY of friends, please visit the Sex Blog Calendar Website.

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Oct 18 2008

As If We Didn’t Have Enough Kink Here - The Week In Kink (#14)

Trust Me... Does That Look Like A Girl Who Would Steer You Wrong?

Catalina’s Favorite Sex Blog Posts Of The Week! Thanks to Altered Aperture who makes me all pretty and then captures it on camera time and time again.

CatalinaLoves.com:

CatalinaSays.com:

BestSexBloggers.com:

Backdoor Bondage Blog:

Into The Attic Blog:

Thursday’s Child:

Dungeon Place:

Mz Berlin’s Blog:

Ms. Nikki Nefarious:

Shared Cindy:

The Urban Gypsy:

Sweltering Celt:

Leather Yenta:

Debauched Domestic Diva:

Curvaceous Dee:

The Butterfly Temptress:

::psst… for more hot sex blog links go to Sugasm.com::

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Oct 10 2008

The 13th Week In Kink

Catalina by AlteredAperture.com

Catalina by AlteredAperture.com

Catalina’s Favorite Sex Blog Posts Of The Week!

CatalinaLoves.com:

Catalina hates Myspace.com
Catalina loves 10 Sexy Things About Men

CatalinaSays.com:

The Good Things List Lives On
Amazing Friends

BestSexBloggers.com:

Sunday Evening Fuck
Crawling In The Dark

MarkyDSade.com:

Princess Donna and Kink.com Launch New Bondage and Public Sex Site: Public Disgrace
Madison Young Gets Tied Up, Caned, and Forced to Cum on Hogtied.com

Backdoor Bondage Blog:

Sgt. Major Puts Fetish Model Charlotte Brooke Through Outdoor Bondage on Sarge’s BDSM Clip Store
Reflections on The Bondage Past - Jade Marxxx and John Blakemore (H.O.M.)

Nawalochai.com:

Shots from Folsom
Folsom Coverage on BehindKink.com

Into The Attic Blog:

Elizabeth
The Zayda J. Hubbub

Thursday’s Child:

Knee Sock Fetish HNT

Over The Top Kinky:

Romanian Hottie Lea Lexis Gets Fucked In The Ass In Public

Bad Bad Girl:

Like Lovers Do

Confessions From My Open Marriage:

There’s a First Time For Everything (Confession #146)

Mz Berlin’s Blog:

Mz Berlin Does Lesbian Love Right in Friends and Lovers with Madison Young

Satine Phoenix’s Blog:

Satine Phoenix is Good Enough To Eat In This Cannibal Fetish Scene from Muki’s Kitchen

Ms. Nikki Nefarious:

Like My Ropes? Buy Them!

TruFetish.com:

Mark Me Yours…

Ellie Lumpesse: Pretentious Pervert:

What’s Wrong With Sex Work?

The Urban Gypsy:

Cleavage of the Day Updated for HNT

Sweltering Celt:

HNT - Getting A Little Leggy

Debauched Domestic Diva:

HNT: aka Cleavage of the Week

Happiness is a Dominant Woman:

Thoughts of Dominant Wives and Submissive Husbands

::psst… for more hot sex blog links go to Sugasm.com::

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