Oct 07 2008

Shibaricon registration now open!

Hello Rope Lovers,

The team has been working very hard & registration for ShibariCon 2009 is officially open!

The BEST rope CommUNITY in the world!

ShibariCon 2009
May 22-25, 2009
Chicago, IL USA

4 DAYS OF CLASSES
Whether you are a novice or advanced rigger ShibariCon has something
for you! We will offer over 80 classes by the best instructors
around including Mark Yu, Mike West, Jimi Tatu, Lee Harrington,
DogTrainer1974, Lochai of hogtied.com, Mark of DV8 House, Sir
C, Dov and too many more to list. Check http://www.shibaricon.com
for updates in the coming months.

3 NIGHTS OF PLAY
Practice your newly learned rope skills in our fully-equipped play
space until 3:00am for 3 consecutive nights!

SHOP!
ShibariCon will have a great selection of vendors selling all sorts
of kinky goodies including rope, toys, corsets, shoes and much, much more!

15% DISCOUNT IF YOU REGISTER NOW!
ShibariCon is offering a 15% discount off of our early registration
price of $155 through the end of October! That means you can
register now for only $132.00! Registration will be limited so this
is a great time to reserve your place. Register here:
http://www.shibaricon.com/registration/register.php The link should
be up on the site within the week.

Please join us for what will be a wonderful weekend of education, fun
& friendship.

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Sep 25 2008

The Last Sex Toy Contest of September - Open To Everyone

Our last contest of the month is open to anyone and everyone.  It’s very simple - several of our contributors are involved in a non-profit project that benefits Sex Worker Awareness - the New York City 2009 Sex Bloggers Calendar.  We’re talking a traditional hang it on the wall (but collectible) calendar with 12 of NYC’s hottest sex writers in a burlesque/pin-up theme.  Hot!

In order to help fund this project several sponsors have stepped forward and offered financial support and for that, we are very grateful.   However, there is still a big gap between the “money in” and “money out” columns.  One way you can sponsor this monumental project is to “buy a day” for $10.00.  This is perfect for brands with an online presence who want to list their URL or for companies with a product to sell, but it also reminds me of the CommUNITY Calendar our town made every year to raise money - where instead of advertising a site or a project, people left special messages on their anniversaries and birthday wishes to friends.  Either way, for $10 you pay for a day, but your message or advertisement is seen for the entire month.

Now the contest part! Go to http://sexbloggercalendar.wordpress.com and buy a day.  When you do, mention BSB Contest in the comments section to be entered into the contest.  For each day you buy (each $10 you spend) you are entered into the contest, so if you buy an entire week, you will be entered 7 times.  Easy!  Just be sure to mention BSB Contest or it doesn’t get entered.

Now tell them what they win, Bob…

Well, Catalina, the lucky winner of this contest has their choice of the Aneros or the Hitachi Magic Wand, which is provided from EdenFantasys.com, who is not only a corporate sponsor of the calendar project, but has also provided us all month with great sex toys for our contests here on BestSexBloggers.com

Thanks, Bob.  Now, go and buy some days!  It’s a win-possible win situation.  Ultimately you can’t lose!  It’s good on a karma level, it makes good business sense, and if you win you will have a very nice prize!

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Sep 18 2008

Folsom Street Fair Fun! A Great Way To Welcome Lochai To San Francisco

KINK.COM ANNOUNCES RECRUITMENT, DEMOS AT FOLSOM ST. FAIR

Company Hosts Stars, Riggers, Directors At Legendary BDSM Lifestyle Event

SAN FRANCISCO (September 18, 2008) – San Francisco fetish erotica studio Kink.com today announced a recruitment drive and series of demonstrations at its booth at the 25th Annual Folsom Street Fair on Sunday, September 28. Attendees to the Sunday street fair, which celebrates the BDSM lifestyle and sexual diversity for all orientations, will get a chance to see Kink.com directors Van Darkholme, Isis Love, Princess Donna and Lochai, expert rigger Lew Rubens and porn stars LaCherry Spice, Natassia Dream, Wolf Hudson and Nick Moretti. and

New Kink.com director Van Darkholme will be in attendance to promote and recruit for his site BoundGods.com, demonstrating the finer points of bondage and punishment on Wolf Hudson and Nick Moretti.

“This is a really important chance for us to meet up with some new models,” said Darkholme. “The leather community is full of hot, kinky guys who are curious about appearing on camera, but haven’t made that step yet. This gives them a chance to get to know us and for us to make contact with them.”

Lochai, the recently-hired director of Hogtied.com, and Lew Rubens, Kink.com’s Bondage Consultant, will be performing demos at the fair. Both men are among the best-known bondage riggers in the BDSM community, and are sought-after educators.

TS superstars LaCherry Spice and Natassia Dream will be also be in attendance on behalf of transsexual domination site TSSeduction.com, meeting and greeting throughout the day, posing for pictures and recruiting male bottoms and transsexual female tops for the site.

“Natassia and LaCherry really want to meet their fans – that’s really important to them,” said TSSeduction.com director Isis Love. “This gives the fans an opportunity to meet two of the world’s most gorgeous transwomen looking totally fine in latex! We’ll be doing recruitment both for TS tops and male bottoms – we love having new talent at TS Seduction, and this lets us get out there in the community and find the super hot trannies and the guys-next-door who really want to know what the site is all about.”

A prolific performer as well as a director, Isis Love will also be in attendance signing autographs and posing for photos, and she admits she’s likely to do spontaneous demos. “Sure, I’ll probably spank some people,” she said.

WiredPussy.com director and frequent performer Princess Donna will be at the booth promoting her new public sex and bondage site PublicDisgrace.com, which launches October 1 — just a few days after the Fair. In addition to greeting fans, Donna will be performing a demonstration of the kind of public bondage and punishment viewers of her new site can expect.

“Public Disgrace features hardcore, explicit sex, which we won’t be doing at the Folsom booth,” she says. “But we’ll still have plenty of fun.”

Said Kink.com founder and CEO Peter Acworth: “Folsom Street Fair is the #1 holiday of the San Francisco fetish community, so we look forward to it every year. This will be a chance for Kink.com to get out there, meet our fans and let everybody see what we’re like in person.”

The Folsom Street Fair began in the early 1980s as a predominantly gay male street fair held on Folsom Street, which had been the center of San Francisco’s gay leather culture since the 1960s. Now in its 25th year, the Fair attracts approximately 400,000 visitors of all genders and orientations from all over the world. The proceeds of the Fair, over $300,000 in 2006, are donated to qualified local charities. Folsom Street affiliated events are now held in Berlin, Toronto, and New York City.

Folsom Street Fair is held from 11am to 6pm Sunday, September 28 on Folsom Street from 7th to 12th Streets in San Francisco. The final schedule of appearances at the Kink.com booth will be posted on the forum pages at www.Kink.com a few days before the event, and more information about the Fair can be found at FolsomStreetFair.com.

Additionally, tours of kink.com’s San Francisco Armory will be offered the Saturday before the Fair for visiting press. Journalists interested in touring the building should contact the Kink.com Public Relations Manager at thomas@kink.com.

Webmasters interested in promoting Kink.com content can visit the affiliate program at www.KinkyDollars.com or email the affiliate manager at terry@kink.com.

ABOUT KINK.COM: San Francisco erotica studio Kink.com provides authentic fetish entertainment that seeks to demystify alternative sexualities and inspire sexual adventurers. Since the launch of its first site, Hogtied.com, in 1997, Kink.com has developed a network of premium adult sites that now operate from studios in the San Francisco Armory, a decommissioned National Guard facility with sets ranging from stark dungeons to luxurious pieds-à-terre. Kink.com also operates a free documentary site at BehindKink.com and the leading fetish affiliate network, KinkyDollars.com.

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Aug 24 2008

Marky + Catalina + Fetlife.com = The New Fetlife Marketing Team

It’s official.  Marky D. Sade and I have accepted a proposal to work with Fetlife.com as their marketing departmentWe are actively seeking new relationships with companies, large and small, who are interested in advertising their products or events on the best fetish social networking site.  What makes Fetlife.com the best adult, fetish, kinky, social networking site on the internet?  Well, take a minute to read what Jane’s Guide had to say about it:

Take a moment and imagine a leather Facebook or Myspace, and then imagine it being run by and for kinky folks. That is exactly what Fetlife is! It is the coolest new community site out there for pervs, and it is absolutely 100% free. I had been hearing the buzz about this new spot on the web from a few of my lifestyle friends, and I finally decided to go set up an account and take a look myself. Many years ago I had been on other sites that promised community and allowed free communication, but since those sites have sold to other companies their soul has left the building and communication costs money. It is also communication that is no longer under the nurturing ownership of perverts with a personal interest in our tribe. I’d lost interest, and so had most of my friends. I was hoping that this site could be some of what I was missing on the old ones. Wow, I wasn’t disappointed! I immediately ran into some of my old friends, and then ran off to recruit new ones. It is easy to sign up. Once you have, then you set up a profile. You can add pics to it, and you’ll never run into that “you have to have such and such membership” to view pics or show them to others. There are social groups here with ongoing forum conversations, so you can sign up for topics that interest you (or create your own groups). There is a mail system that acts like a personal bulletin board for private conversations, so you don’t lose track of what has been said to anyone. You can post writing, see what your friends are doing, and a lot more. A lot of talented pervs are posting writing and engaging in conversation here. I’ve met a lot of new friends. There is a small amount of advertising, but it is done really tastefully and never gets in the way. You can write to the folks that run the site, and they will actually write you back. I’ve been in love with this place and raving about it for the last several weeks. This is one of the few sites that didn’t ask for review. I sought out the owner and asked him if I could post one. It is that good. I feel like I’m giving you guys an early Christmas gift. Go check it out! This is the next big kinky community site! They are going to be huge, and they will stay huge as long as they keep the spirit that they have now. - Vamp

To highlight:  “There is a small amount of advertising, but it is done really tastefully and never gets in the way.” and “This is the next big kinky community site!  They are going to be huge, and they will continue to stay huge…”

We couldn’t be more proud!  It’s all true, too.  One thing we love about being a part of the Fetlife team is that we are able to work with you, one-on-one, through each step of the way to get your ad placed in just the right spot.  You can advertise broadly across the entire network, or we can target by location (country or state) and by gender (M,F,MtF,FtM and or GQ), thereby optimizing your advertising money by targeting your market, the kinksters who are looking for your company or product!

We only display three ads per page, all static and nicely placed in the F-zone.  You’re not competing for attention.  People will and do see them, but as Vamp pointed out in her review, they aren’t obnoxious and annoying.  We’ll keep it that way!  We want to continue to build Fetlife the way it was intended - by (real) Kinksters for (real) Kinksters!

For more information on advertising on Fetlife.com, please contact us at mark@fetlife.com or catalina@fetlife.com.  And feel free to grab that banner up above and link it from your site to Fetlife.com.  :)

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Aug 20 2008

Guess I am SF bound……..


“Hi, this is Vince and on behalf of Matt Williams & Lisette we would like to offer you employment @ Kink.com”

Yes, I was officially offered the webmaster/director’s job @ Kink as the new Director of Hogtied.com. Matt has been promoted to Creative Director of Kink & all of their sites & he has been looking for his replacement. It seems I was on the short list.

So, starting today I will be keeping an account of what it is like to have the dream job of every (public) rigger I have ever met or had in one of my classes. Check out my rigger’s blog @ nawalochai.com

This is a lot to wrap my head around but I am really looking forward to working with such a wonderful crew of people doing what I love doing.

Rigging, oh and getting beautiful woman off…

So, all that is left for me to do is sign the offer just emailed to me & we are good to go……. Deep Breath….

In the mean time, check out my video with the beautiful Isobel Wren…….


Jump ahead one day…

Well I just officially accepted the job of Director of Hogtied.com

Now all that is left is to pack up & move to SF.

Still need to catch my breath & will write more later. You can follow my daily exploits of my time @ Kink.com here…..

I officially start Sept. 29th but will be flying out to SF for a few weeks to do some rigging & to get my crew in order & get acclimated to my new situation.

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Aug 20 2008

NYC Sex Blogs

Category: Best Sex Bloggers, Networking, News, Sex Bloggersjack @ 7:53 am

I’m still new to this whole sex blogging thing, but I’ve found that it is a community unlike any other I have been part of. There is a sort of electricity when everyone is like-minded and kinky. Not that we all have the same kinks or the same philosophies or what have you, but the open mindedness is there. Plus there is this ever present reminder of sex in the air. We are all having sex, writing about it, thinking about it. Every conversation is somehow tinged with the erotic. It does make for interesting cups of coffee.

In looking at the sex-blogosphere I see lots of pockets of people. We pool together by age, by kink, by aesthetic or sometimes just by chance. It seems like there are a large number of us in the NYC/Tri-State area. We are all often close enough to meet, we are all often in similar socioeconomic situations. Not to say that the metro-sexbloggers are similar, but we do tend to look at certain things differently than our midwestern siblings, our west coast cousins or our international friends.

In light of this I started a new site called NYCSexBlogs.com. It is basically going to be a big list of NYC/Tri State area bloggers. People who live in New York City, work here or play here. I (hopefully “we” soon) will also profile hot NYC bloggers and list fun activities in the city for us kinksters.

If anyone would like to help, there are two things you can do. First off you can email me any links I have missed (which at this point is A LOT) or email me your ideas for a spotlight feature on a certain NYC blogger, a New York activity or something else this particular audience might be interested in. My email is jackwritesdirty@gmail.com.

Oh this city doesn’t sleep alright…


Aug 15 2008

The NCSF and SFLDEF are two important groups you should know about

Lolcat from Icanhascheezburger.com

Lolcat from Icanhascheezburger.com

It’s obvious that I’ve recently encountered issues with people who have deemed my writing as immoral. I have no problems admitting to the world that I am working towards a legitimate career as a sex writer and educator at the same time that I am working as a PR and Marketing consultant to some of the best known writers, photographers, models, and site owners. I have no shame in it. I recently shared my writing with my only family member, who was very supportive of my efforts to run my own business, to write articles as well as erotic fiction, and also as a mother. Being someone I respect as an educated woman with a doctorate in education, as well as as a Mom of three successful children, it meant the world to me to hear her say, “I love you, and I think you’re doing a great job, and your child is proof of it!”

Sometimes people aren’t satisified with sharing their disgust personally with the moral offender. It is in these instances that people who live an alternative lifestyle should know about two very important sites. These are cape-wearing defenders of freedom. I’ve spoken recently about the National Coalition for Sexual Freedom, but I wanted to write a separate post discussing both the NCSF and the Sexual Freedom Legal Defense and Education Fund.

The National Coalition for Sexual Freedom is “a national organization committed to creating a political, legal, and social environment in the United States that advances equal rights of consenting adults who practice forms of alternative sexual expression. NCSF is primarily focused on the rights of consenting adults in the SM-leather-fetish, swing, and polyamory communities, who often face discrimination because of their sexual expression.”

They offer some very practical advice, including how to deal with police officers if they are involved and how to travel with sex toys. In addition, they have a list of Kink-Aware Professionals - “The resource for people who are seeking psychotherapeutic, medical, and legal professionals who are informed about the diversity of consensual, adult sexuality” - who might be able to assist you, should the need arise to defend yourself, your lifestyle, or your family.

The SLFDEF states:

Polyamory, swinging, BDSM and fetishism are among the kinds of practices which may expose people to legal problems. We believe that parents should not lose custody of their children just because of the parents’ lifestyle or variety of sexual expression. We believe that people should not face criminal prosecution for consensual sexual expression among adults. We believe that the government should not interfere with consensual sexual expression among adults. Because we believe these things, we are working to provide:

  • Money towards legal and litigation expenses, such as attorney fees and expert witness fees.
  • Referrals to attorneys and expert witnesses knowledgeable about alternative sexual expression and willing to take cases dealing with it.
  • Public information and education about alternative sexual expression.

Both of these resources are available to our CommUNITY. Hopefully you will never need to call upon them, but they are very responsive and they will come to the rescue when and where they can.

My request to you, specifically, is if you have been lucky enough to avoid legal, career, or custodial issues by living your lives freely, that you consider donating directly to these organizations. I realize that you may have just donated via my raffle, but I’m speaking of the bigger picture.

If you can, when you can, keep these two organizations in mind for your socially conscious checkbooks. I know that Mark and I will both be stronger proponents and advocates for each of these groups as a result of their support and help to our CommUNITY.

The National Coalition For Sexual Freedom Donation Page

Sexual Freedom Legal Defense and Educational Fund

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Aug 14 2008

CommUNITY

I keyed this phrase about a year ago & started using it whenever I spoke or wrote about the people around me with similar interests coming together for similar purposes…

It was officially used for an event I helped organize & taught at called Beyond Leather in 2007.  The first year of this event was wonderful & it epitomized the phrase CommUNITY. Our very own Graydancer was a presenter last year as well. Check out the site & sign up for BL 2008!

I know this is supposed to be blog of my ideas but… I would rather those who see this word & will hopefully use it in their own writing would help me write this entry.  So, please comment below on your ideas on the word and concept  of CommUNITY and the way it is spelled & I will add your comments to the entry daily.

Let’s do this as a CommUNITY….

Spread the word!!!!  Tell all of your friends about this post!

A FetLife CommUNITY -  CommUNITY Builders…

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Aug 13 2008

This Battle Has Been Won, But The War Far From Over!

I am overwhelmed with emotion and at a loss for words at the outpouring of support that people in our community have shown our family by donating prizes for the raffle, buying tickets, cross posting to spread the word, and the kind words that have gotten us through a very difficult time. We are proud to say that our personal need has been met and good (us, the sinners) triumphs over evil (them, the morally superior). To feed off of Graydancer’s post, we have proven that “a community proving that a community of pervs cares more about her education than an administration full of assholes.”

This means that instead of being my personal mission to fight for my daughter, I am on a bigger mission for the greater cause. I recognize that I am not the only person going through this battle. In fact, it’s a series of small battles that are all a part of a greater war on personal freedom, often with children in the crossfire.

This shouldn’t happen, but if you’re living an alternative lifestyle, it very well could happen to you. The only way to combat it is to put on the armor, link up arm-in-arm, and take them on as a commUNITY. That is exactly what I’ve seen in the last few days and I think we can do more!

The raffle continues, as it is scheduled to end on Sunday (8/17/08) at 10pm, but from this point forward, all proceeds will be going to the National Coalition for Sexual Freedom as a contribution from the community that has stood together and won this battle. This is our way of supporting the war that has been waged in the land of the free against personal and sexual freedom. At the end of the year, the refunded monies will also be donated on behalf of this community.

The National Coalition for Sexual Freedom is a national organization committed to creating a political, legal, and social environment in the United States that advances equal rights of consenting adults who practice forms of alternative sexual expression. NCSF is primarily focused on the rights of consenting adults in the SM-leather-fetish, swing, and polyamory communities, who often face discrimination because of their sexual expression.

My deepest gratitude to those who have supported and continue to support this cause. I have never felt such a sense of community in my entire life. So here is the current prize list for the new official National Coalition for Sexual Freedom raffle. Check back, as we seem to be adding prizes daily.

From Lochai there are three 5×7 museum signed prints from his recent exhibit at the World Erotic Art Museum, two of them are not only museum signed prints, but are also very limited editions.

Alley Bound and Curves are a limited edition of 10 museum signed prints. If you win, you will receive either 6/10 or 7/10. Beach Bound is Lochai’s iconic World’s Most Erotic Photograph winning piece, and is a signed museum print. (Sold normally at $75/print)

Ellie Lumpesse has donated three books:

The Straight Girl’s Guide to Sleeping With Chicks by Jen Sincero
Aqua Erotica by Mary Anne Mohanraj
The Ultimate Guide to Fellatio by Violet Blue

Ellie is also offering:

a 30-minute private phone session (that can include her amazingly sexy man) if you win.

Sam donated:

custom, hand made jewelry (a necklace and earring set) to a runner up. “It’s not a kinky prize, but pretty,” she said. Pretty indeed! Take a look: http://quem98.livejournal.com/306470.html

Thursday and D donated:

a signed 8×10 print of any one of their photographs
a copy of the book, The Mammoth Book of Illustrated Erotic Women.

And Thursday has also offered:

one of her sexy (orgasmic) voicemails to a lucky winner. Let me tell you, that is one hot prize.

The writer of Between My Sheets offered:

A brand new, still in the package, never been used Silver Bullet Vibe.

And just now I heard from my Naughty Secretary who offered:

Her services as a graphic designer. There are two separate prizes - each being two hours of graphic design time (normally charged at $120/hr). In addition to participating in this raffle, she is doing her own auction to raise money. She is sponsoring a silent auction of one of her paintings on her web page.

Edward, from Exjinn.net, the company that hosts all of our blogs and provides us without outstanding support and service, has offered:

A 50 gig hosting plan from Exjinn.net with 1-year of service.

Essin’ Em:

just donated a copy of the book, Wetter, with her story signed personally for you. As if that weren’t generous enough, she has also offered an 8×10 print!

Sabrina Fox - does the name ring a bell?

Sabrina Fox, as in the redhead hot as fuck bondage and fetish model, Sabrina Fox, was chatting with me today and mentioned that she has a few pairs of latex panties that she recently wore for a photoshoot that would offer as prizes. Latex panties worn by Sabrina Fox, anyone? Oh wait until I tell W about this when she is older.

Jeff Mach commented: (THANK YOU, JEFF!) [This is one of those prizes that I would like to know if you would like to be entered to win. If you're not in the area and can't use the tickets, then they would do you no good, but if you are in that area, then it's a great prize!]

I am running a New Year’s Eve fetish event in New Jersey at the end of this year (on NYE itself). I’ll offer a ticket (that is, admission for two people, including gourmet meal and champagne)

and

I run the Wicked Winter Renaissance Faire, now entering its fourth year, every February - again, in Jersey. We’re going to three days this year, and tickets for all three days would usually be at $40; I can donate two pairs of those, as well.

I feel like George from “It’s a Wonderful Life”. Graydancer, who posted a very insightful post about the society that we live in, just twittered me (it sounds dirtier than it is) and said:

I didn’t realize you were adding prizes. Throw in an audiobook version of my novel, “Nawashi“.

Rose Fox offered a very generous and naughty prize — a very good combination for this crowd!:

I used to review DVDs for AVN, and I’m still on Vivid’s mailing list, so now I have a closet full of unopened Vivid porn DVDs. I’ve been trying to figure out how to donate them someplace and would be delighted to offer them for your cause.

There are too many to catalog, so perhaps 10 “grab bags” of ten DVD’s? I’d do my best to include a varied selection so that the winner is fairly likely to get at least a few titles that suit their tastes.

(Just a note on this: because of the laws regarding the selling of pornography, the winners would need to submit a copy of their ID to Rose in order for her to be able to send them to you.)

Beautiful Rebecca has offered:

an original piece of sensual art from the artist. It was scheduled for a gallery show next year but we would much rather have it go to your cause as it hit home. It is 3×4 metal with an object representing a uterus called, “Oikos Cella”.

Alternatively, for those who win, but don’t feel that this art is right for their home, she is an interior designer and has offered to do a consultation for a room re-do. The details are kind of extensive, so I’ll discuss it with the winner personally.

Ms. Nikki Nefarious and AlteredAperture.com) has donated prints and a rope kit:

Collette for TABU Magazine 8 x 12
Jamie in Latex 8 x 12
Girl’s Best Friend 8 x 12
Scream 8 x 10
GarGirl Bound 8 x 10
The Enforcer 8 x 10
Sarah Sealed 8 x 10
Red Hood 8 x 10

and then A Starter Rope Package (4-pack of multi-colored ropes in different lengths and hemp rope cuffs)

Lily, who calls herself Lily (the rope ho) in her comment has donated

3 x 30ft hand-dyed, processed 6mm hemp kit

Radical Vixen, who most of you know as the editor of the weekly sex blog digest, Sugasm, is a very active political advocate. She has offered two books for the raffle:

She’s on Top: Erotic Stories of Female Dominance and Male Submission
Sex and Bacon: Why I Love Things That Are Very, Very Bad For Me

Thank you, so much! I cannot tell you how moved I am by the random kindness of the community. Lochai’s the one who started the commUNITY concept, but I get it better than ever now.

I’m officially re-launching the “Catalina’s Emergency Tuition Fund Raffle” as the “The Battle Is Won, But the War is Not Over” raffle with all remaining proceeds from this point forward going to NCSF.

Here is the link to buy your virtual ticket.

Tickets are $10.00 each, you can buy as many as you’d like (if you’d like to donate $50.00, for example, I’ll enter your name 5 times). You are not obligated to buy a virtual ticket. You can also just donate to a very worthy cause at any amount.

I really will write down names and put them in a hat, and my daughter can pick the winners. At this point, she is well-aware of what is going on. We’ll choose the winners on August 17th at 10 pm. You will be notified by 10:30 pm by email. Heck, we’ll even try to find someone to film it and show it to you all :)



Aug 12 2008

I’ve never asked for help before, but then again, nobody ever used my child as a pawn in a moral war before

Buy A Raffle Ticket To Win A Limited, Edition, Museum Signed Print From Lochai

I’ve never discussed this on my blog before, but recent developments have prompted me to discuss the reason why I’m no longer a teacher. Being Catalina isn’t always a good thing. I separated early this year with my school as a peaceful way to avoid a public scandal that would ultimately affect my teenage daughter, who attended said school.

Part of my agreement I cannot legally discuss - specifically the reasons and terms of my separation - but use your imaginations. I can say that I agreed to leave quietly and peacefully under the condition that my (straight-a’s, honors courses, award-winning, athlete, without a discipline record) child be allowed to attend her last year of middle school just as if I had resigned at the end of the year. Let me spell this out for you. Faculty receive a substantial tuition discount. I pay 10% of the tuition. This roughly amounts to $1,100. After leaving, all faculty are offered one more year for their children at the faculty tuition discount as a way to avoid disrupting their children’s lives too much.

A few days ago the head of my former school called me to tell me that had rescinded his offer and that she was no longer welcome to attend. In the same phone conversation, he changed his mind and decided to honor our agreement. Well, kind of. I came in with the tuition and they refused to accept my payment.

Later I received an email that stated that on top of the faculty tuition, I am also expected to pay student fees, which are not covered under the faculty discount. Okay, so throw in another $900. I can come up with that, even if it means the car payment doesn’t get paid.

The straw that broke this camel’s back? The additional $1,000 expense account that is being demanded by the 18th of August to cover her lunch account (which was roughly $750 last year) and field trip expenses (which are roughly $250). I requested that she not be allowed to charge a lunch in the cafeteria and that she will bring her lunch, which is an option available to (other) parents, to have this fee waived. The field trip charges, I can’t really object to, that seems fair, so mental tab up to $2,200.

I’ve just been informed that the school is unwilling to waive the expense account fee for her lunch account and demands the entire amount be paid. If it is unused it will be refunded to me at the end of the year. Nice of them to at least offer that. This brings up my new grand total to $3,200 in 8 days.

I went from having her tuition paid to being a mile away.

I have never been as upset as I am right now. For a “Christian” educator to use a child as a pawn in a moral battle against me, and what I represent, is unethical - it’s beyond unethical - it’s reprehensible.

So I’ve played all of my cards, my hands are tied. He wins right now. Because I have been judged a whore, my child loses.

I refuse to allow that to happen. For the first time ever, I am asking my readers to help me. I’ve asked my readers to support the arts (artists, photographers, and other bloggers) but never asked for financial support on my blogs for myself or my family. Today that changes because my child is involved. Today I ask for your support for my daughter’s education and future.

Similar to the project I did for Lochai, I am asking for donations towards my daughter’s education fund. I spoke to Lochai this afternoon, and he has offered to donate three 5×7 museum signed prints from his recent exhibit at the World Erotic Art Museum, two of them are not only museum signed prints, but are also very limited editions.

Alley Bound and Curves are a limited edition of 10 museum signed prints. If you win, you will receive either 6/10 or 7/10. Beach Bound is Lochai’s iconic World’s Most Erotic Photograph winning piece, and is a signed museum print. (Sold normally at $75/print)

On top of Lochai’s unbelievably generous offer, several people have contacted me since posting this and asked to donate items to be raffled off as well. Now, from Ellie Lumpesse we have three books:

The Straight Girl’s Guide to Sleeping With Chicks by Jen Sincero
Aqua Erotica by Mary Anne Mohanraj
The Ultimate Guide to Fellatio by Violet Blue

Ellie is also offering a 30-minute private phone session (that can include her amazingly sexy man) if you win.

And one of Janice’s friends left a comment in my blog that she would donate custom, hand made jewelry (a necklace and earring set) to a runner up.

“It’s not a kinky prize, but pretty,” she said. Pretty indeed! Take a look: http://quem98.livejournal.com/306470.html

Thursday and D have also offered a signed 8×10 print of any one of their photographs and a copy of the book, The Mammoth Book of Illustrated Erotic Women. And Thursday has also offered one of her sexy (orgasmic) voicemails to a lucky winner. Let me tell you, that is one hot prize.

Then I got an email from a total stranger, the writer of Between My Sheets, who offered:

A brand new, still in the package, never been used Silver Bullet Vibe.

And just now I heard from my Naughty Secretary who offered:

Her services as a graphic designer and artist. She is looking into which painting(s) she is going to donate, but she has committed to two separate prizes - each being two hours of graphic design time (normally charged at $120/hr).

Edward, from Exjinn.net, the company that hosts all of our blogs and provides us without outstanding support and service, has offered:

A 50 gig hosting plan from Exjinn.net with 1-year of service.

Thank you, so much! I cannot tell you how moved I am by the random kindness of the community. Lochai’s the one who started the commUNITY concept, but I get it better than ever now.

Essin’ Em, the pansexual feminist sexpert on her way up, just donated a copy of the book, Wetter, with her story signed personally for you. As if that weren’t generous enough, she has also offered an 8×10 print!

Sabrina Fox - does the name ring a bell?

Sabrina Fox, as in the redhead hot as fuck bondage and fetish model, Sabrina Fox, was chatting with me today and mentioned that she has a few pairs of latex panties that she recently wore for a photoshoot that would offer as prizes. Latex panties worn by Sabrina Fox, anyone? Oh wait until I tell W about this when she is older.

Jeff Mach commented: (THANK YOU, JEFF!)

Prize donations, a few: - I am running a New Year’s Eve fetish event in New Jersey at the end of this year (on NYE itself). Tickets are probably going to be something along the lines of $250 per couple - we were actually finalizing that this week. I’ll offer a ticket (that is, admission for two people, including gourmet meal and champagne) for the raffle, if you’d like.

and

I run the Wicked Winter Renaissance Faire, now entering its fourth year, every February - again, in Jersey. We’re going to three days this year, and tickets for all three days would usually be at $40; I can donate two pairs of those, as well, if it will assist you.

I feel like George from “It’s a Wonderful Life”. Graydancer, who posted a very insightful post about the society that we live in, just twittered me (it sounds dirtier than it is) and said:

I didn’t realize you were adding prizes. Throw in an audiobook version of my novel, “Nawashi“.

Thanks, Graydancer! I appreciate it! I didn’t know I was going to add prizes either, until people started offering. The outpouring of support in the various ways people have shown it is very moving. Some people can afford to show their support by purchasing a ticket, some people are supporting us by crossposting, some are offering prizes, some are doing all of the above and then some. I even consider it supportive just to see comments from people who happened upon it and have shown emotional support.

In the comments this morning, from a total stranger, Rose Fox, was this offer, which is generous and naughty — a very good combination for this crowd!:

I’m here via the person who donated the jewelry. I used to review DVDs for AVN, and I’m still on Vivid’s mailing list, so now I have a closet full of unopened Vivid porn DVDs. I’ve been trying to figure out how to donate them someplace and would be delighted to offer them for your cause.

There are too many to catalog, so perhaps 10 “grab bags” of ten DVD’s? I’d do my best to include a varied selection so that the winner is fairly likely to get at least a few titles that suit their tastes.

Thank you, Rose — I don’t know anybody, personally, who would turn down a handful of DVD’s. And you’re really giving away 10 prizes, not just one, so thank you x 10! You’re right, there’s got to be something in there that turns that key in the lock. (Just a note on this: because of the laws regarding the selling of pornography, the winners would need to submit a copy of their ID to Rose in order for her to be able to send them to you.)

Also in the comments this morning was a message from Beautiful Rebecca offering a piece of original sensual art:

I have an original piece of sensual art from the artist I live with I would like to donate. It was scheduled for a gallery show next year but we would much rather have it go to your cause as it hit home.

I believe most of my readers know Ms. Nikki Nefarious. She’s not only an award-winning rigger, but an award-winning photographer as well (http://alteredaperture.com). She is also a very close, personal friend of mine and although she is going through her own crisis after leaving her own job, she has offered to donate some of her prints as well as a rope kit. Here are the details:

Collette for TABU Magazine 8 x 12
Jamie in Latex 8 x 12
Girl’s Best Friend 8 x 12
Scream 8 x 10
GarGirl Bound 8 x 10
The Enforcer 8 x 10
Sarah Sealed 8 x 10
Red Hood 8 x 10

and then A Starter Rope Package (4-pack of multi-colored ropes in different lengths and hemp rope cuffs)

Lily, who calls herself Lily (the rope ho) in her comment below offered:

3 x 30ft hand-dyed, processed 6mm hemp kit to add to the prize box

Radical Vixen, who most of you know as the editor of the weekly sex blog digest, Sugasm, is a very active political advocate. She has offered two books for the raffle: (Thanks, Vix!!)

She’s on Top: Erotic Stories of Female Dominance and Male Submission
Sex and Bacon: Why I Love Things That Are Very, Very Bad For Me

I’m officially launching the “Catalina’s Emergency Tuition Fund Raffle”, here is the link to buy your virtual ticket. Tickets are $10.00 each, you can buy as many as you’d like (if you’d like to donate $50.00, for example, I’ll enter your name 5 times). I really will write down names and put them in a hat, and my daughter can pick the winners (of course I’ll come up with some vanilla reason why she’s doing it). We’ll choose the winners on August 17th at 10 pm. You will be notified by 10:30 pm.


**I wanted to mention that any money in excess of need will be donated to the National Coalition for Sexual Freedom. At the end of the year when this ridiculous expense account is refunded to me, I will also donate that money to the NCSF. This is more than one parent’s experience/nightmare. It’s the bigger cause that we are ultimately fighting for. If you’re not familiar with the mission of the NCSF, this is copied from their page:

The National Coalition for Sexual Freedom is a national organization committed to creating a political, legal, and social environment in the United States that advances equal rights of consenting adults who practice forms of alternative sexual expression. NCSF is primarily focused on the rights of consenting adults in the SM-leather-fetish, swing, and polyamory communities, who often face discrimination because of their sexual expression.

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Aug 09 2008

It isn’t really shutting the door, but more like closing the curtains

Catalina, Editrix of BestSexBloggers.com

Catalina, Editrix of BestSexBloggers.com
Photography by Altered Aperture

At this time, we are adding blogs by invitation only.

At some point in the reasonable future, once we have better established the guidelines for being a part of our community, I will post an announcement asking for submissions.

Make your name known by commenting and keep reading and/or subscribe to BestSexBlogger.com for that announcement.  It will not be posted elsewhere.

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Aug 06 2008

FunseXXXtoys Public Baptismal