Nov 11 2008

Who The Hell Are These Hotties?

They are 12 of NYC’s sexiest women!  They are the official pin-up girls of the 2009 Sex Blogger Calendar.   Curious who is who?  Have you ever wondered what some of our very own Best Sex Bloggers look like?  I won’t give it away, but Em and Lo did!  Click on the image to go to Em and Lo’s Daily Bedpost interview with our own Urban Gypsy and learn a little about these sultry sex vixens, but before you do, try to guess who is who.  Your choices are:

Audacia Ray is a new media professional whose medium is sex. Over the past seven years, she has been a researcher and curator at the Museum of Sex, blogger for sites like Fleshbot and Naked City, author of the book Naked on the Internet, director of the award-winning porn film The Bi Apple, executive editor of $pread magazine, and adjunct professor at Rutgers University. She is also the vice president of Sex Work Awareness, the organization that will benefit from this calendar’s fundraising efforts. Her video podcast lives at LiveGirlReview.com and her blog WakingVixen turns five years old in 2009.

Desiree is a brainy, sexy, foodie, geeky, writer chick from New York who has always had an inclination toward the naughty. Sex is her absolute favorite topic of conversation and has been since way before she had any business conversing on the subject (starting at about age 2). She never backs down from a Scrabble challenge and once scored seventy six points with the word ‘clitoris’. She blogs about sex and culture and life at Baser Instincts

One fateful day, for better or worse, Diva, looking online for a momentary escape from her household chores, stumbled upon sex blogs. Her life hasn’t been the same since. Meeting up with a notoriously perverted blogger triggered a resurgence of sexuality frozen under layers of domesticity and monotony. She started Debauched Domestic Diva to record her new experiences and the conflicting emotions her weekly trips to New York City spurred. Writing her blog, slowly becoming a technical guru and being immersed in a new uber-cool circle of friends has given Diva the spark she was searching for that auspicious day.

Sociologist, blogger, and activist, Elizabeth Wood co-founded Sex In The Public Square as a place for academics, activists and people just plain interested in sex to talk about the intersections of sexuality and society. Dr. Wood writes about sex work, social justice, human rights, and is developing the idea of the “sex commons,” the space created by the increasing number of web sites and blogs where people can share sexual knowledge and expand sexual freedom.

Jamye Waxman, M.Ed is a writer, author, director, producer, host and sex-positive feminist. She is the former sex advice columnist for Playgirl Magazine, the author of “Getting Off: A Woman’s Guide to Masturbation” and the creator of the Personal Touch Video Series for Adam and Eve Pictures. Jamye has been dubbed the “nexxxt generation of sex educator” by wired.com and she is the President of Feminists for Free Expression.

Lux Alptraum serves as Editor of Fleshbot, Gawker Media’s blog about porn,sex, and the web, and Editor of Boinkology. Career highlights include founding and running That Strange Girl (the first altporn site to feature both male and female models), interning at Nerve, and keeping the masses educated about sex for the past ten years. Her writing has appeared in Time Out New York, Best Sex Writing 2008, and GOOD Magazine.

Having been trapped in a painfully awkward phase since, well, forever, with little more than one measly, anonymous kiss under her belt, Mariella’s gift to herself for that pivotal 21st birthday wasn’t the customary forty of Heineken, but the services of a professional pervert. With that pesky virginity thing taken care of, she served a brief stint in Nailing-Everything-That-Moves Land, but ultimately decided to dabble in debauchery on a significantly smaller scale. When she’s not getting lost in the subway or the swirling language of Faulkner, she’s stumbling blindly through basic human interaction, blogging every step of the way.

Rachel Kramer Bussel is a writer, editor, blogger, and reading series host. She has edited over 20 erotica anthologies, including Tasting Him, Tasting Her, Spanked, Rubber Sex, Dirty Girls, Crossdressing, and the non-fiction Best Sex Writing 2008 and 2009. She is Senior Editor at Penthouse Variations, hosts In The Flesh Reading Series, and is a former sex columnist for The Village Voice. She blogs at Lusty Lady and Cupcakes Take The Cake.

Marie “Riese” Lyn Bernard
is a freelance video-maker, journalist, blogger, vlogger, fictionist, copywriter, essayist, re-capper, and aspiring cyber-performance artist based in New York City. She blogs at “This Girl Called Automatic Win” and recaps homo-sexy television at “Automatic Straddle” and for “The L Word Online.” Her work has appeared in Marie Claire, Curve, OurChart, Nerve.com, Clean Sheets and Conversely as well as books including The Bigger the Better, the Tighter the Sweater: 21 Funny Women On Beauty, Body Image, and Other Hazards of Being Female, Dirty Girls, Best Women’s Erotica 2005, Best American Erotica 2007 and the Lambda Literary Award-winning Erotic Interludes 2: Stolen Moments.

Sinclair Sexsmith is a chivalrous kinky writer, queer butch top, and feminist sex educator in New York City. He runs Sugarbutch Chronicles, a personal writing exploration of sex, gender, and relationships, and attempts to celebrate queer theory, sexuality, gender, and culture in ways that are expansive rather than restrictive, liberating rather than limiting. Mr. Sexsmith has degrees in both creative writing and gender studies, and his poetry and erotica has been published in various places, including Best Lesbian Erotica.

Tess may be a New Yorker but she’s really a gypsy at heart. Albeit a gypsy who sees herself frolicking through the forest clad in garments from the season Givenchy was high on the peasant aesthetic, nimbly avoiding stray branches and skipping over rivulets while kicking up her Prada brown suede stilettos. Tess is truly the embodiment of an Urban Gypsy, the title of the blog where she writes dark and moody D/s themed erotica, reviews sex toys, shows off her generous cleavage and generally reveals too much information. Several of Tess’ oh-so-wrong-but-oh-so-right fantasies are scheduled to be published in upcoming erotica anthologies.

Twanna A. Hines is a New York-based writer, editor, blogger and sexpot. Her dating commentary has been heard on NPR, and details about her rendezvous have been printed in Glamour magazine. She has written about sex, dating, relationships, men, pop culture and celebrities for Huffington Post, Lifetime, Nerve, Gen Art, Fast Company and others. AOL placed her site, FUNKYBROWNCHICK.com, on their Black Voices list of best blogs. Twanna’s sites have also been mentioned in New York magazine and online at Gawker Media, EbonyJet, Vibe and elsewhere. She speaks English and Dutch fluently. Get down with the funky brown at Funky Brown Chick.

So how did you do?  Did you guess 10/12 correctly?  8/12? I’m curious, leave a comment, if you would!  And remember, when you buy a calendar, not only do you get twelve months of pin-up sexy, you are actually helping to support the Sex Worker Awareness project that was founded by a group of sex workers and their allies who, after working with $pread Magazine for several years, saw a need for deeper support and advocacy than a magazine can offer. The organization was created around the core belief that all sex workers have a right to self-determination; to choose how they make a living and what they do with their bodies.j

It’s a win-win in my book!  Something for me to put in my office and a way to contribute to my CommUNITY.  If you’re in NYC on November 14th (that’s in just a few days!) then plan to make an appearance at the party.  You can meet me (oh ya, and the pin-ups) and the first 100 to arrive have awesome gift bags.  I know, because I’ve somehow volunteered to help put them together and there is some amazing stuff in there!

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Nov 02 2008

Two Halloween Parties

Category: Events, Fetish, Submissive, Unspeakable Axeunspeakableaxe @ 9:25 pm

I went to two different Halloween parties, two very different experiences but both very good.

All week I looked and looked for something that goes with this:

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Someone suggested PVC pants but I’ve never worn PVC before. Others said black jeans would do. One person suggested I go without pants entirely.

I went for the usual: Leather pants and a black t-shirt. My homage to Steve Jobs and every hair band from the 80’s.

The first party was filled with warm friendly faces, big smiles, great costumes (other than my own) and good conversation. It’s one of those places where you know you’ll be around the kind of people you’d bring with you if you were going to colonize mars. Someone greeted me and I had no clue who it was at first since she was covered from head to toe in latex. I found myself in a circle of friends talking about everything from bad movie ideas to politics.

There was a moment where I had a brief out of body experience, realizing how very different things were for me now compared to when I first move to New York and didn’t know anyone. I felt lucky, grateful and warm. Thanksgiving came on Halloween.

Afterwards I headed to smack. Smack is a massive fetish party featuring people in latex, leather and anything else you can imagine. It’s important to note that it’s more fetish than bdsm. There’s some play going on but it’s mostly for show. There I was, a guy going to a fetish party with two of my best friends, one dressed as a sexy wild strawberry and the other as a seductive geisha. There are few things better than watching your friend dressed as a strawberry get her groove on while guys stare from across the room.

A few people were engaged in kinky play. Some were sincere, others were clearly putting on a show. I saw an older couple in the play area having a very hot scene. They were really into it. She wince and arched her back in a way you could tell she was barely aware that there were hundreds of people dancing around her. Downstairs I saw two women “playing”. If anything they were playing to the crowd rather than each other. The woman playing the part of submissive seemed more interested in seeing how the crowd reacted to her reactions. It felt like I was watching bad porn.

There were a few posers there, people acting like they were King Shit of Fuck Mountain. The people who act like they’re doing everyone a favor by letting us be in the same room with them. Its a funny thing to see.

I’m not sure if it was the music, the overcrowded club or the fact that I was also trying to get over being sick but I decided to head home. On my way out I ran into a friend who was sporting her brand new short PVC red dress. I tried not to stare, gave her a hug and tried to think of non-sexy things since hiding an erection while wearing leather pants is almost impossible. We talked for a bit but I left before her date returned with their drinks.

Jumping on the subway I felt less out of place than I normally do when dressed that way. I was sitting next to a drunk guy in a bunny suit and a coed in a catholic school girl uniform.

I made it home, took some nyquil and as I undressed I received a text message from the friend in the short red PVC dress:

“You are an idiot. You should have stayed…I’m a bit hornier than expected. It’s probably good that you left…in a way. If I were a man you would have been promptly raped. I would have lured you into a dark alley…”.


Oct 28 2008

Why Pay More?

Category: Events, Unspeakable Axeunspeakableaxe @ 7:53 pm

I’ve subscribed to the google calendar of Nycaltevents. There’s TONS of event listings on there and when you combine it with the events list I subscribe to from Conversio Virium, my calendar is filled with kink, poly and swinger events.

I was browsing through and noticed this:

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I knew that events at Paddles always ran more for men than women, but I’ve never really understood why.

$5 for women and $25 for men? Guys pay five times more?

Obviously this isn’t the only event that does this. I don’t blame them for doing it. I just don’t understand why. There are plenty of events where women get in free but men need to take out a mortgage, sell some plasma and put your autographed photo of Ted Knight up on ebay.

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I’ll miss you Ted.

So why do men have to pay more?

The main argument seems to be that women aren’t willing to pay more but men will. It’s not worth it for women to shell out extra cash.

Why not? There’s kinky stuff going on, don’t women want to be part of it as much as men? Is the desire less? They’re desire to go to an event ends at paying more than five bucks but men have five times the desire so they’ll pay 25?

The other argument is that men won’t show up if women don’t show up. Doesn’t the same logic say that if men don’t show up, then women won’t show up? Besides, when I first moved here I went to Paddles a number of times where it was just me and a bunch of guys standing around despite the discount price for women.

On the other hand I’ll be going to Smack on Friday where everyone pays the same price and there’s usually a 50/50 ratio of men to women. It’s more fetish than BDSM, maybe that’s why more women show up. There’s less sexual stuff going on.

Perhaps it goes back to the age old question: If women are just as into this stuff as men, where are these women? Why are men paying a hundred bucks to get into a swingers event and women can walk in for free? Are the men like myself who want to go to events like these so horrible and disgusting that the only way a woman will go is if she has nothing better to do?

I posed this question via twitter and a few people responded.

“Also, men are more willing to pay for sexual stimulation. More female prostitutes than male. Is it fair? No. But reality.”

“Instead of viewing it as a higher charge, look at it as a discount for women (which is what it is.) Doesn’t help you, tho.”

“Specifically to annoy you. No other reason.”

Maymay gave me some of his wisdom via twitter. “The reason kink/fetish events are cheaper for women is blatantly obvious: sexism. Women are products, men are the consumers.”

Oh how I wish this wasn’t true. If only I were being the one consumed and used like a product.


Oct 26 2008

National March for Sex Workers Rights

Category: Events, News, Politics, Radical Vixen, Sex Workerradicalvixen @ 2:07 am

International day to end violence against sex workers.

(cross-posted from Radical Vixen)

From Sex Workers Outreach Project:
National March for Sex Workers Rights
Dec. 17, 2008
Meet at Franklin Square (14st NW & Eye ST NW) near McPherson Square Station for rally and speeches.
March Gathers at noon.
March ends at The White House (1600 Pennsylvania AVE) about 3 blocks away.

Join the Sex Workers Outreach Project (SWOP-USA) as we march on Washington to demand rights for all sex workers! On Wednesday, December 17, 2008, advocates from across the nation will converge to mark the International Day to End Violence Against Sex Workers. Together, we will take a stand for justice, dignity, and the freedom to do sex work safely and in dignity. We are calling for an end to the unjust laws, policing, shaming and stigma that oppress our communities and make us targets for violence. At this vibrant event, we will both honor the lives lost in 2008 and celebrate our vital movement. Some housing is available for out-of-towners - consider staying on to attend our big party that weekend. On Dec. 17th, SWOP-USA and its allies in harm reduction and social justice welcome your support as we march for sex workers rights!

This is a permitted event (pending approval). For more information, or to endorse this event, contact:
877-776-2004 x 1
dec17atswopusadotorg

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Oct 19 2008

My big Saturday night date

Category: BDSM, Events, It Really Happened, Leather Yenta, Lolita Wolflolitawolf @ 11:26 pm

Our Saturday dinner ran late at Dark Odyssey. Oink and friends had forgone the camp dining hall. Glenda had barbecued steak, fish, vegetables and fresh corn on the cob. Dessert was grilled pineapple and peaches. It was quite a yummy contrast to the regular camp food.So, it was late. My hot butch date took off to her cabin to take a shower and I showered too. I packed a toybag - floggers (because she liked that last time) and rope (because she wanted to try something new).

She showed up and swooned when she saw I was wearing a slip. The night was muggy and humid and I wanted to be comfortable; I had no idea that she had a thing for a girl in a slip. It made me feel extra sexy. We both decided that instead of heading straight up to the dungeon, we would first go check out the Garden of Carnal Delights at Sex-O-Rama.

The Garden of Carnal Delights has four rooms, each with a different flavor. The first room was the “Make Out” room. We peeked in and saw that there were a few people in there. We decided to enter and we sat on one of the couches whispering and looking at the other couples. And then we kissed. She’s a good kisser. I liked kissing her and would have liked to kiss some more, but we both wanted to move forward and explore more. We didn’t have all night!

We moved to the next room and peeked in. This was the Orgy room. Nothing seemed to be going on at that time. There was only one naked guy in there sitting and waiting for something. We skipped that room and continued onward. It seemed that everybody was up at the Sex-O-Rama and most of them were on the porch. We stopped every few feet in order to greet people and flirt. We had fun flirting. I could be an outrageous tease and then stop, because I was here with a date. It was very fun.

Next we came to the peep show. There were four different sections behind plexiglass. In the first, a couple had just finished up what looked like a sex scene. The next section had a threesome with the bottom in a sling. A complicated scene was being set up in th third spot. There was a ladder and a man rigging up an enema. The last room was empty and awaited some other person or persons who would be exhibitionist. Last year I had danced here and made a lot of Kundalini Kash.

We then entered the next room, the Brothel. This was the room with the heavy action. We were greeted by the Madame. “Just looking!” we told her, “We’re on a date.” She shoved some Kundalini Kash in our hands and we pressed on to see who was available and who was busy doing what with whom. There were some very sexy people offering their services, people who I wouldn’t have minded blowing a wad of cash on. I have always had a good experience in the Dark Odyssey brothel. The cool thing about the brothel is that there are all types of people available. All genders, all ages, all body types. And the people selling themselves state their limits and control what will happen. The providers are the ones in control.

I did not need to hook up at the Brothel; I had what I wanted. I had my date with a sexy butch. We had seen it all and we began to make our way back. We flirted with more people and found some friends on their way to the peep show. We gave them our Kundalini Kash and advised that they tip the performers. And then we headed up to the dungeon to play.


Oct 19 2008

Mark Your Calendars Now: The NYC Sex Blogger Limited Edition 2009 Calendar Launch Party

See You At The Party!

See You At The Party!

Meet Me In New York City!!

Join us for the launch party and buy a copy of the NYC Sex Blogger 2009 Limited Edition Calendar on Friday, November 14, 2008 from 6:30 pm - 9:30pm at The White Rabbit (http://www.whiterabbitnyc.com).

Meet the bloggers who made it happen, and ask really nicely and you might even get your calendar signed. While admission to our party is FREE and open to the public, there will be a cash bar (with Happy Hour prices till 9PM), raffle tickets and calendars to purchase so please come prepared with some green to show your support and join in the fun.

Twelve of New York City’s most dynamic literary and sex positive women, along with photographer Stacie Joy, and the sex blogging CommUNITY have collaborated to create the New York City SexBlogger 2009 Limited Edition calendar in order to support Sex Work Awareness (http://www.sexwork101.com). Sex Work Awareness is an organization that trains sex workers in media skills and educates the public about issues that affect people who work in the sex industry. 12 of NYC’s finest writers, sex educators, film makers, and ordinary women are determined to see the stigma associated with sex work and workers removed.

Included in the calendar are Audacia Ray, Desiree, Diva, Elizabeth Wood, Jamye Waxman, Luz Alptraum, Mariella Ella, Rachel Kramer Bussel, Riese, Sinclair Sexsmith, Tess Danesi, and Twanna A. Hines. A full biography of each calendar model is available at http://sexbloggercalendar.wordpress.com/about.

The first 100 guests to arrive will receive a FREE gift bag from Babeland! Aside from amazing burlesque performers and organic orgasm-worthy cookies from FreeFoodsNYC, you can purchase your very own copy of the calendar. In addition, to supplement our fundraising efforts we will have a raffle, and we encourage you to buy a raffle tickets. $2 for 1, $5 for 3 and $10 for 10 will give you a chance to win prizes that include an Njoy Eleven, a Liberator Ramp, a Liberator Throe, a Rolling Toy Trunk from ForYourNymphomation, and a Museum Signed Print “Ally Bound” by Lochai. The list grows daily. A complete list will be posted on the calendar blog (http://www.sexbloggercalendar.wordpress.com).

If you are unable to attend the launch party, you can still buy your limited edition copy of the calendar directly through the Sex Blogger Calendar website or here on BestSexBloggers.com (look to the right).

About the NYC Sex Blogger 2009 Limited Edition Calendar:
For the latest news, a complete list of bios of each sex blogger featured in the calendar, our sponsors, and our CommUNITY of friends, please visit the Sex Blog Calendar Website.

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Oct 15 2008

Madison Young to Read From “The Tail of a Bondage Model” in Minneapolis This Weekend

Image of Madison Young by Lydia Daniller

Madison Young by Lydia Daniller

San Francisco, CA - Madison Young, the kinky girl next door, will be in Minneapolis this weekend at the Smitten Kitten on Saturday and Sunday at 7:00pm. Bear witness to this revolutionary porn star sharing her secrets on how to create queer feminist bdsm porn on Saturday, and a reading from her forthcoming memoirs, The Tail of a Bondage Model on Sunday.

Have you ever wanted to dabble in creating your own porn for you and your lover, for commercial distribution, for your own kinky pleasures?  Learn how from the perspective of porn producer, director and performer and activist extraordinaire Madison Young.  Those in attendance will be able to ask burning questions about the LA porn scene as well as the San Francisco queer art and porn world.  Madison will be also showing clips from her upcoming movie releases.

Madison Young will be available for autographs and questions at both events and will be bringing with her limited addition Madison Young’s Erotic Breast Self Exam Posters.

Both events will be well attended. Please RSVP by calling 612-721-6088.
The Smitten Kitten is located at 3010 Lyndale Avenue South
Minneapolis, MN 55408
http://www.smittenkittenonline.com.

For more information, please contact Brian Gross, BSG PR, (818) 340-4422. Email: brian@Bsgpr.com.

About Madison Young:
Madison Young is an international award-winning bondage model and pornstar. Ms. Young has been awarded “Best SM Suspension Model” by Bishop Awards and was the submissive star of last year’s AVN Award-winning BDSM video. She has been directing BDSM and erotic films since 2005 and has won great acclaim for her video line, Madison Bound Productions. Madison Bound Productions has been awarded the 2008 Feminist Porn Awards and has been gaining attention from the erotic film festival circuit.

According to Young, “Our high quality productions, girl-next-door appeal, and hardcore queer sex in a bright, sex-positive atmosphere is what our fans are drawn to. It’s porn that couples watch together, appealing to both a straight/queer and kinky/vanilla audience.” Ms Young intends on revolutionizing the porn industry one wanker at a time with hot, aggressive queer and kinky rough sex. When Madison isn’t performing and directing, she is running her own non-profit feminist arts organization, Femina Potens Art Gallery (www.feminapotens.org) , which has produced over 200 LGBT art events in the last four years.

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Oct 09 2008

What the %$#@ is a GRUE, part 732

(GRUE, for those who are new to the idea, is an event I created called “Graydancer’s Ropetastic Unconference Extravaganza,” and it is modeled after the Open Spaces & Unconference models of self-organizing events. So far there have been five GRUEs, in Madison (WI), Western Michigan, St. Louis, Minneapolis, and the most recent, in Toronto.)

Dart, Gray, & Sascha demonstrate rope gags.

Graydancer, Dart (of DartsDomain.com) and Sascha demonstrate rope gags.

One of the difficulties of setting up a GRUE - really, the only one - is trying to describe to people exactly what it is. Hell, I’ve had very close friends in the rope community say to me “Oh, we don’t need a GRUE here in [insert well-known rope community], we’ve got so many rope events as it is…I don’t think people want another one.”

And therein lies the problem, because it’s exactly that kind of situation that the GRUE is designed to combat. When we’ve reached a point where it’s “…just another rope event…” where we know we’ll see the same classes and the same faces talking about (for the most part) the same things, that’s when it is necessary to step out of the pattern, to have an event where the participants are also the instructors, where we’re all “ho’s, pro’s, & schmoe’s” to paraphrase Laura Antoniou. To have an event where the classes aren’t the same things we’ve talked about before - they’re the things we’re passionate about right now. Every single GRUE - every single one - has had some veteran, jaded rope top or bottom that comes out of it renewed, inspired, invigorated.

I’ve been struggling with finding ways to tell people about this - not because I want there to be more GRUEs, exactly, but just because I think we’re in a danger of too many events that are too similar, and that leads to either apathy or burnout or both. One of the GRUE participants, however, said it incredibly well, and I’m going to quote him here from the GRUEp in Fetlife:

“I actually logged on to this site [Fetlife], which I knew nothing about, after the Toronto GRUE. What I thought I had been invited to by a beloved friend; in order to expand both of our technical interests, turned into so much more. GRUE is not a how to class. The Participant driven format presented me w/ choices I made away from the practical presentations. Instead I found myself in intimate, experienced (both new and wise), visceral discussions about gender identity, jargon limitations, dialogues on submissive mindsets, and a rather intense exploration of cultural, racial, and tabooist prejudices (in and out of the scene) and the ethos surrounding exploring those fantasizes. (pardon my German guilt, I’ll never be your storm trooper)

At the party, later that evening, I had the opportunity to reacquaint w/ participants on a more social level, and fuck- they were fun. One of my most memorable emotives was saying good night to a member that I hadn’t said a word to throughout the unconference, but had shared some time w/ my friend. Through casual observation and the searing light of her enthusiasm over the Saturday, I left the party only being able to thank her for what little I had enjoyed of her, not meeting her.

GRUE seemed to have that kind of “in way deeper than I signed up for” coupled w/ I wish everything was this rewarding sort of experience. I will attend any others in my area.

Sasha, we all admire you. Good fortune. Gray- I’m enjoying the book and thank you JP-great event, intense times, be well everyone- thank you for participating in my life. I am better for you.”

Graydancer inverts Sascha at KOMA Gallery during Torontos Nuit Blanche 2008

Graydancer inverts Sascha at KOMA Gallery during Toronto's Nuit Blanche 2008

You can see some images of Sascha & I, both at the GRUE and at Toronto’s Nuit Blanche event with Lord Morpheous and others, at the gallery linked to the image above. Questions about the GRUE? Email Graydancer, or listen to the Ropecast - we took one of the sessions, Graydancer’s Fishbowl, and recorded it, and it will be up in its unedited glory soon.

Remember, when it gets very dark…you are likely to be eaten by a GRUE. So next time, bring rope.


Oct 07 2008

Shibaricon registration now open!

Hello Rope Lovers,

The team has been working very hard & registration for ShibariCon 2009 is officially open!

The BEST rope CommUNITY in the world!

ShibariCon 2009
May 22-25, 2009
Chicago, IL USA

4 DAYS OF CLASSES
Whether you are a novice or advanced rigger ShibariCon has something
for you! We will offer over 80 classes by the best instructors
around including Mark Yu, Mike West, Jimi Tatu, Lee Harrington,
DogTrainer1974, Lochai of hogtied.com, Mark of DV8 House, Sir
C, Dov and too many more to list. Check http://www.shibaricon.com
for updates in the coming months.

3 NIGHTS OF PLAY
Practice your newly learned rope skills in our fully-equipped play
space until 3:00am for 3 consecutive nights!

SHOP!
ShibariCon will have a great selection of vendors selling all sorts
of kinky goodies including rope, toys, corsets, shoes and much, much more!

15% DISCOUNT IF YOU REGISTER NOW!
ShibariCon is offering a 15% discount off of our early registration
price of $155 through the end of October! That means you can
register now for only $132.00! Registration will be limited so this
is a great time to reserve your place. Register here:
http://www.shibaricon.com/registration/register.php The link should
be up on the site within the week.

Please join us for what will be a wonderful weekend of education, fun
& friendship.

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Sep 30 2008

The morning after Folsom…

My Master came home last Friday night, and left this morning. We only had two full days together, and one of them was spent running around the Folsom Street Fair, so even less one-on-one time.

Saturday he was jet-lagged and worn out. We spend an indolent day in our apartment. I served him breakfast, lunch, tea, and dinner. And we cuddled on the sofa all evening.

Sunday did not go as it was supposed to go. I had an outfit planned, and then there were a serious of clothing malfunctions, and I had a hell of a time finding something to wear, which was compounded by waking up to a serious sore throat. (Which, of course, after spending the day running around a crowded street fair, is much worse today!) The outfit needed to do a number things:

  1. it had to be sexy
  2. but it had to keep me covered up from the sun
  3. because I already had a sore throat, comfy shoes were called for, because while I can handle the pain of walking all over The City in six-inch stillettos when I feel well, when I don’t feel well, adding extra stress and discomfort is not a good idea

Finding an outfit that fit all of the above was darn near impossible, after both my prefered option, and my “Plan B” were shot. And we were supposed to get to the fair early, and the clock kept ticking as I kept getting more and more stressed out about finding the right thing to wear.

Finally, he took the useless upset puddle of me, held me lovingly, and ordered me to go put on a traditional schoolgirl uniform (”I don’t care that the Americans won’t get why what you are wearing is really a fetish outfit, it will please me and that’s what matters.”)

So, instead of getting to the fair early, by the time we got there it was already crowded — too crowded to really do the photography I wanted to do.

But we did get there in good time to shoot Luke Degre rigging up the lovely Lady Ivy, whom I have a serious crush on. We got some great shots of their really intense scene. (I have to say, I’m glad my Master isn’t interested in using staple guns!)

I’ll be spending the day processing those images, and I’ll share the best with you lot over here. Although at the moment I’m on the sofa, eating a grapefruit and drinking lots of fluids and trying to do the right thing for my throat, which is very displeased with me!

Before my Master left for his business trip today, made the kind of love to me that we both like best.

He indicated I was to give him a hand-job, and as I did he pinched my nipples, making me moan in that lovely combined pleasure/pain. Suddenly he rolled me over on my back, and started spanking my pussy. As I shrieked (mostly in delight, but also in pain as the slaps became heavier and heavier) and he said, “You have kaya to blame for this!” I managed to say, in between gasps, that kaya would be most pleased, but reconsidering it, I know kaya is not a sadist and would never wish pain upon her fellow slaves, so I think actually it will be kaya’s wonderful Master S. who would be most pleased! ;)

After he’d had enough of spanking my pussy, he rolled me back around tightly into his arms, and started spanking my bottom with serious intensity. (Honestly, I think my motto as a slave should be, “A warm-up? What’s that?!”) I clung to him and just hung on for the ride. It was actually really thrilling! Warm-ups are possibly over-rated!

When he was done, as we re-adjusted positions, his leg came up against my pussy, and the liquid evidence of how much I love his sadistic attentions.

Nothing more needed to be said, and suddenly he was on top of me, fucking me in missionary position. This was never really a favorite of mine, I was always more of a doggie-style girl, but with him I just come and come and come when he fucks me that way. (Well, I really just come whichever way he fucks me. But it’s always a surprise for me to enjoy missionary so much.)

Then we ended up in our usual final position: me on top. We’ve worked out a good rhythm for this, because after I come, often my legs go all like jelly and I can’t keep on riding him, so after I come hard, I take a break and go down on him, then climb back up and ride away to another orgasm, and then, ahem, rise and repeat until he comes, either in my mouth or in my pussy. Today it was in my pussy. We came really hard together, and I love how connected that makes us feel.

Then we took a shower together, which is another of our favorite ways to connect. We started the tradition when I first started sleeping over at his place, and I still lather him all over with body wash. I still giggle when washing his genitals. I still love running the foamy soap over the strong muscles of his thighs and calves. We often kiss in the shower. Kissing as water runs down your bodies is so purely romantic, at least to us: we are water creatures for sure!

Now he’s gone, but I still feel all warm and connected to him. If only my throat wasn’t aching so much, I’d be just perfectly happy. I joked to him that sex should be mandatory on Monday mornings!

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Sep 26 2008

Sunday Fun At Folsom Street Fair with Kink.com (and Lochai)

If you’re attending San Francisco’s Folsom Street Fair this coming Sunday, September 28, be sure to come by and see the Kink.com-KinkMen.com booth! Folsom Street is the legendary leather event with 400,000 attendees every year, and not to be missed if you’re a fan of kinky fun and/or hot kinksters of all genders, orientations, and proclivities, including plenty that probably haven’t yet occurred to you.

At the Kink.com booth, you’ll see demos, celeb appearances from some of our stars and directors, and best of all you can put in an application to be one of our models. That’s right, if you’ve been wanting to apply but haven’t had the time/nerve/opportunity, why not drop by and get your picture taken this Sunday?

You can check out the ongoing demos or get a chance to meet your favorite directors and stars. Kink.com directors attending are Van Darkholme, Isis Love, Princess Donna, Lochai, Lew Rubens and James Mogul. Models appearing are LaCherry Spice, Natassia Dream, Wolf Hudson, Nick Moretti, Lorelei Lee, and Madison Young. But that’s not all — throughout the day and you’ll see cameos from Annie Cruz, Mark Davis, Ginger Lynn, and January Seraph. No promises as to just how pervy our demos will get, but… er… it’s Folsom.

The fair is *adults only*, and runs 11am-6pm on Folsom Street between 7th Street and 12th Street in San Francisco. The Kink.com booth is on Folsom Street between 8th and 9th, closer to 9th Street.

Below is the schedule for Sunday’s appearances. Recruiting for TSSeduction.com and BoundGods.com / KinkMen.com will be happening all day.

Directors:
Van Darkholme: Noon-6pm
Isis Love: Noon-4pm
Princess Donna: 1-3pm
Lochai: 1-3pm
Lew Rubens: 2-3pm
James Mogul: 4-5pm

Models:
LaCherry Spice: Noon-4pm
Natassia Dream: Noon-4pm
Wolf Hudson: Noon-4pm
Nick Moretti: Noon-4pm
Lorelei Lee: 1-3pm
Madison Young: 4-5pm

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Sep 26 2008

The Week In Kink (#11)

Image Courtesy of http://dungeonplace.com/

Image Courtesy of http://dungeonplace.com/

The Week In Kink is cross-posted in an abbreviated format to save space.  Please click The Week In Kink #11 to read the original post.

CatalinaLoves.com: Catalina loves Kink and the Folsom Street Fair
CatalinaSays.com: Just Because It’s Fall Does Not Mean Tess Should Wear Turtlenecks
MarkyDSade.com: The Best, Most Sadistic Bondage Video Ever Done by Sgt. Major
BackdoorBondageBlog.com: An Open Letter to Chanta Rose about Nika Noir: Dom to Domme
Nawalochai.com: Sexies Awards Party and Polyamorous Pride Weekend
IntoTheAttic.com/Blog: Synner
Essin’ Em: Sexuality Happens: Come Get Your Knife
The Accidental Blowjob: Sex Toys and Adult Toys: The Bad List
The Femmes Guide: How To Have A Gorgeous Beach Body
Mistress Matisse’s Journal: Fundraiser for burn victim Martha Manning (owner of Seattle’s Lesbian bar, “The Wildrose”)
Mz Berlin’s Blog: Memes, Dreams, and an Update About TMS
Satine Phoenix’s Blog: Satine Phoenix is Food Fetish Lesbian Orgy
Lady Sascha’s Blog: All Tied Up and Nowhere To Go
Sugarbutch Chronicles: Sugarbutch Star: Eileen
Alessia Brio: The Best $5 I Ever Spent
BestSexBloggers.com: The Last Toy Contest of September is Open To Everyone!

::psst… for more hot sex blog links go to Sugasm.com::

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Sep 24 2008

The Sexies, Tristan Taormino, and Polyamorous Pride Weekend (October 3rd - 5th)

A sexy image by Elaisted.com

A sexy image by Elaisted.com

The Sexies Awards Party:  Join us in New York City to celebrate the awarding of the first Sex-Positive Journalism Awards.The party will be Sat. Oct. 4, 6:30-9:30pm,
in the downstairs lounge of Splash, 50 W. 17th Street, New York.
(www.splashbar.com)
$5 cover

Mingle with your favorite sex-positive writers and advocates, and support the mission of Sexies awards so they can continue into 2009! The first 100 attendees will get a gift bag of goodies from the Sexies sponsors.

Meet first-place winners Amanda Robb (”Abstinence 1, S-CHIP O,” New York Times), Debbie Nathan (”Hysteria, Exploitation, and Witch Hunting in the Age of Internet Sex,” Counterpunch), Jill Bauer (”Never Too Old for Sex,” Miami Herald), Daniel Engber (”Naughty Nursing Homes,” Slate), and Alysha Rooks (”Between the Briefs,” Res Gestae, University of Michigan Law School), as well as many of our other fabulous winners.

Meet the stellar Sexies judges! Attending the award ceremony will be: Carol Queen, PhD, writer, speaker, educator, and activist with a doctorate in sexology; Liza Featherstone, journalist and author of “Sex, Lies, and Womenís Magazines” (Columbia Journalism Review); Judith Levine, journalist and author of the award-winning Harmful to Minors: The Perils of Protecting Children From Sex; and Doug Henwood, contributing editor to The Nation. Judith Levine will talk about her experiences with the media when Harmful to Minors was released.

There will also be a silent auction and raffle to support the awards. The fabulous prizes include:

  • original art by Julio Aguilera and Sophy Naess;
  • signed copies of books by winners, judges, and supporters;
  • sex toys;
  • gift certificates for sexy pleasures; and more!

Don’t miss out on this chance to support the sex-positive journalism and take home something you’ve always wanted. Prize donations are still being accepted. Contact Miriam at info@sexies.org if you have a donation.

Also, make a weekend of it! For those who are interested, Oct. 3-5 is also Polyamorous Pride weekend in New York City, and PolyNYC has planned a packed schedule (none of which overlaps with the Sexies party!). There is a cuddle party Friday night, a rally and picnic Saturday afternoon featuring Sexies winner Tristan Taormino as keynote, an afterparty, and a reading and book signing on Sunday. More information here: http://www.poly-nyc.com/pride/.


The Sexies are the brainchild of journalist Miriam Axel-Lute, and were brought about in collaboration with writers, readers, and activists from The Center for Sex & Culture and the National Coalition for Sexual Freedom. Corporate sponsors include Babeland, The Playboy Foundation, Xbiz, UltraVirgo Creative, and Splash. More details are available at: www.sexies.org.

Remember to send in your entries for next year’s awards whenever you read something sex-positive: www.sexies.org/submit.php.

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Sep 18 2008

Folsom Street Fair Fun! A Great Way To Welcome Lochai To San Francisco

KINK.COM ANNOUNCES RECRUITMENT, DEMOS AT FOLSOM ST. FAIR

Company Hosts Stars, Riggers, Directors At Legendary BDSM Lifestyle Event

SAN FRANCISCO (September 18, 2008) – San Francisco fetish erotica studio Kink.com today announced a recruitment drive and series of demonstrations at its booth at the 25th Annual Folsom Street Fair on Sunday, September 28. Attendees to the Sunday street fair, which celebrates the BDSM lifestyle and sexual diversity for all orientations, will get a chance to see Kink.com directors Van Darkholme, Isis Love, Princess Donna and Lochai, expert rigger Lew Rubens and porn stars LaCherry Spice, Natassia Dream, Wolf Hudson and Nick Moretti. and

New Kink.com director Van Darkholme will be in attendance to promote and recruit for his site BoundGods.com, demonstrating the finer points of bondage and punishment on Wolf Hudson and Nick Moretti.

“This is a really important chance for us to meet up with some new models,” said Darkholme. “The leather community is full of hot, kinky guys who are curious about appearing on camera, but haven’t made that step yet. This gives them a chance to get to know us and for us to make contact with them.”

Lochai, the recently-hired director of Hogtied.com, and Lew Rubens, Kink.com’s Bondage Consultant, will be performing demos at the fair. Both men are among the best-known bondage riggers in the BDSM community, and are sought-after educators.

TS superstars LaCherry Spice and Natassia Dream will be also be in attendance on behalf of transsexual domination site TSSeduction.com, meeting and greeting throughout the day, posing for pictures and recruiting male bottoms and transsexual female tops for the site.

“Natassia and LaCherry really want to meet their fans – that’s really important to them,” said TSSeduction.com director Isis Love. “This gives the fans an opportunity to meet two of the world’s most gorgeous transwomen looking totally fine in latex! We’ll be doing recruitment both for TS tops and male bottoms – we love having new talent at TS Seduction, and this lets us get out there in the community and find the super hot trannies and the guys-next-door who really want to know what the site is all about.”

A prolific performer as well as a director, Isis Love will also be in attendance signing autographs and posing for photos, and she admits she’s likely to do spontaneous demos. “Sure, I’ll probably spank some people,” she said.

WiredPussy.com director and frequent performer Princess Donna will be at the booth promoting her new public sex and bondage site PublicDisgrace.com, which launches October 1 — just a few days after the Fair. In addition to greeting fans, Donna will be performing a demonstration of the kind of public bondage and punishment viewers of her new site can expect.

“Public Disgrace features hardcore, explicit sex, which we won’t be doing at the Folsom booth,” she says. “But we’ll still have plenty of fun.”

Said Kink.com founder and CEO Peter Acworth: “Folsom Street Fair is the #1 holiday of the San Francisco fetish community, so we look forward to it every year. This will be a chance for Kink.com to get out there, meet our fans and let everybody see what we’re like in person.”

The Folsom Street Fair began in the early 1980s as a predominantly gay male street fair held on Folsom Street, which had been the center of San Francisco’s gay leather culture since the 1960s. Now in its 25th year, the Fair attracts approximately 400,000 visitors of all genders and orientations from all over the world. The proceeds of the Fair, over $300,000 in 2006, are donated to qualified local charities. Folsom Street affiliated events are now held in Berlin, Toronto, and New York City.

Folsom Street Fair is held from 11am to 6pm Sunday, September 28 on Folsom Street from 7th to 12th Streets in San Francisco. The final schedule of appearances at the Kink.com booth will be posted on the forum pages at www.Kink.com a few days before the event, and more information about the Fair can be found at FolsomStreetFair.com.

Additionally, tours of kink.com’s San Francisco Armory will be offered the Saturday before the Fair for visiting press. Journalists interested in touring the building should contact the Kink.com Public Relations Manager at thomas@kink.com.

Webmasters interested in promoting Kink.com content can visit the affiliate program at www.KinkyDollars.com or email the affiliate manager at terry@kink.com.

ABOUT KINK.COM: San Francisco erotica studio Kink.com provides authentic fetish entertainment that seeks to demystify alternative sexualities and inspire sexual adventurers. Since the launch of its first site, Hogtied.com, in 1997, Kink.com has developed a network of premium adult sites that now operate from studios in the San Francisco Armory, a decommissioned National Guard facility with sets ranging from stark dungeons to luxurious pieds-à-terre. Kink.com also operates a free documentary site at BehindKink.com and the leading fetish affiliate network, KinkyDollars.com.

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Sep 06 2008

On the Scene: Sabrina Fox & Graydancer at Spankfestival

Greetings from Black River Falls WI!

Spankfestival is in full swing right now, and when we say swing, we’re yes, ta