Oct 15 2008
Imposter
I have been spending time on Fetlife. We all know the coolness that is Fetlife by now. Kinky people from all different walks of life, communing in one place on the Internet. It’s a very cool thing, right down to Jay Wiseman joining and starting a discussion group.
The problem then?
I feel like an imposter. I know I mentioned it on Twitter and plenty of people assuaged my feeling then by pointing out that all sorts of people are on there. Still, I feel like a fake.
It’s not just there, mind you. It’s on my own blog too. What started out as erotic posts about kinky sex have morphed into posts about things like cancer and song lyrics that fit my mood at the moment. Seriously, I don’t remember the last time I blogged about sex much less freaky sex!
Maybe it’s time to hang up my sex blogger hat. I never started with one in mind anyway. It was just sort of given to me. Perhaps instead of sexy, stimulating, kinky, and hot people in my sidebar I need to link to Obama and CNN. Instead of wishing for something that leads to being featured on Fleshbot or in the Sugasm top three what if I need to just accept the signs of the times and leave well enough alone.
The thing is, I like my blog. I like that I have grown and come into my own in so many ways. I like the fact that people read and respond, that they come back time and time again. The people I have come to know are fabulous and they never cease to amaze me. Right now I’m not ready to let it go, give it up, or call it quits.
Even if I am an imposter.
October 15th, 2008 at 8:57 pm
If you’re an imposter, so am I. :) I’m writing what is pretty much a sex blog and I haven’t had sex since February. I do, however, think about it a lot! ;)
As with _any_ sex, your brain’s the most important sex organ. Kink’s in the mind for the most part, darlin.
October 15th, 2008 at 9:31 pm
Then I must say, dear Panthera, that I am smokin’! lol
Ok, seriously, I’m glad you commented. I love comments, especially from beautiful people like you.
October 15th, 2008 at 10:16 pm
But you are such a damned good impostor, I have thought for all this time you were really a person. So, I say, what the hell, just keep it up. Actually an imposter is a person pretending to be an impostor, according to my spell checker, but who knows. just go ahead and keep it up, please.
October 16th, 2008 at 12:15 am
I think its good for a blog to have a bit of balance and include other things. I think it makes the person seem more real and more like someone you might want to know. Sometimes I think the ones that only write about sex are just too good to be true.
TG xx
October 16th, 2008 at 6:30 am
Hi David
My spell-checker said that ‘imposter’ was wrong also, so I looked it up to double check (American Heritage Dictionary – Cite This Source – Share This im·pos·tor or im·pos·ter (ĭm-pŏs’tər) Pronunciation Key
n. One who engages in deception under an assumed name or identity. [French imposteur, from Latin impostor, one who assigns a name, from impostus, variant of impositus, past participle of impōnere, to place upon; see impose.]). Of course, Google being what it is, it could be wrong. Gmail tells me all the time that words like wouldn’t and couldn’t are misspelled.
I know that my mind isn’t what it used to be, so sometimes I forget part of my English minor classes. Brain cancer will do that to you, I think. So I really am glad that someone else caught it. I thought it looked wrong also!
October 16th, 2008 at 7:29 pm
Hi TG
I’m like you. When I fall in blog love, it’s usually because they are real and they document their sex life but also the times when sex isn’t happening. We know about their struggles and their hardships as we celebrate their milestones and joys right along with them.
Thank you for taking the time to comment.
October 17th, 2008 at 5:38 pm
I do not see how you are an impostor. People are more complicated then you make them. Sex bloggers are not only about sex just like mothers are not only about taking care of their kids. Sex is just one aspect of who you are and right now somethings are more pressing for you to talk about so you talk about them. And that is more then just ok. Just be yourself. Just do what comes naturally to you. Only good will come out of that!
And on FetLife I spend most of my time in the Kinky & Geeky group and the animal lovers group (not to be read beastiality). So, does that make me an impostor?
October 18th, 2008 at 10:40 pm
If you are an impostor, then we probably all are! My notion of sex is that it’s only one part of our life. Sometimes when I sit down to write about sex, a million other issues come to mind that seem more important at the moment, and almost all relate to my sexuality as well. Keep doing what you’re doing! Don’t get caught up in the business of belittling what you do for this group!
Aloha,
Fanny