Aug 15 2008
The NCSF and SFLDEF are two important groups you should know about
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It’s obvious that I’ve recently encountered issues with people who have deemed my writing as immoral. I have no problems admitting to the world that I am working towards a legitimate career as a sex writer and educator at the same time that I am working as a PR and Marketing consultant to some of the best known writers, photographers, models, and site owners. I have no shame in it. I recently shared my writing with my only family member, who was very supportive of my efforts to run my own business, to write articles as well as erotic fiction, and also as a mother. Being someone I respect as an educated woman with a doctorate in education, as well as as a Mom of three successful children, it meant the world to me to hear her say, “I love you, and I think you’re doing a great job, and your child is proof of it!”
Sometimes people aren’t satisified with sharing their disgust personally with the moral offender. It is in these instances that people who live an alternative lifestyle should know about two very important sites. These are cape-wearing defenders of freedom. I’ve spoken recently about the National Coalition for Sexual Freedom, but I wanted to write a separate post discussing both the NCSF and the Sexual Freedom Legal Defense and Education Fund.
The National Coalition for Sexual Freedom is “a national organization committed to creating a political, legal, and social environment in the United States that advances equal rights of consenting adults who practice forms of alternative sexual expression. NCSF is primarily focused on the rights of consenting adults in the SM-leather-fetish, swing, and polyamory communities, who often face discrimination because of their sexual expression.”
They offer some very practical advice, including how to deal with police officers if they are involved and how to travel with sex toys. In addition, they have a list of Kink-Aware Professionals – “The resource for people who are seeking psychotherapeutic, medical, and legal professionals who are informed about the diversity of consensual, adult sexuality” – who might be able to assist you, should the need arise to defend yourself, your lifestyle, or your family.
The SLFDEF states:
Polyamory, swinging, BDSM and fetishism are among the kinds of practices which may expose people to legal problems. We believe that parents should not lose custody of their children just because of the parents’ lifestyle or variety of sexual expression. We believe that people should not face criminal prosecution for consensual sexual expression among adults. We believe that the government should not interfere with consensual sexual expression among adults. Because we believe these things, we are working to provide:
- Money towards legal and litigation expenses, such as attorney fees and expert witness fees.
- Referrals to attorneys and expert witnesses knowledgeable about alternative sexual expression and willing to take cases dealing with it.
- Public information and education about alternative sexual expression.
Both of these resources are available to our CommUNITY. Hopefully you will never need to call upon them, but they are very responsive and they will come to the rescue when and where they can.
My request to you, specifically, is if you have been lucky enough to avoid legal, career, or custodial issues by living your lives freely, that you consider donating directly to these organizations. I realize that you may have just donated via my raffle, but I’m speaking of the bigger picture.
If you can, when you can, keep these two organizations in mind for your socially conscious checkbooks. I know that Mark and I will both be stronger proponents and advocates for each of these groups as a result of their support and help to our CommUNITY.
The National Coalition For Sexual Freedom Donation Page
Sexual Freedom Legal Defense and Educational Fund
August 16th, 2008 at 9:23 am
I’ve been writing about sexual freedoms for a long time in my own little Canadian way, even though I’m a vanilla girl with no pursuit of kink or anything. My employers know about my sex blog, as does my father and everyone else in my life. I’ve always figured that was the point about being open re: sex.
But I’m Canadian and I live and work in a liberal community. Canada is a much more sexually free nation than America, and that’s something I’ve been thinking about writing about lately, but I imagine it’s because, in 1969, laws were passed saying all sex, as long as it was consensual, was legal — excluding rape, bestiality, pedophilia, and necrophilia.
What’s been happening under Bush in the States is just ridiculous. I feel so badly for people who’ve been ostracized and attacked for their sexual choices, and I’m so grateful I live here.
Anyhow. Power to ya. Keep fighting the good fight. If we keep shouting common sense long enough, someone’s bound to hear it and be changed.
August 16th, 2008 at 8:32 pm
We can only hope for change, otherwise we turn into cynics.
Thanks for the support and the comment! Canada is looking like a pretty good place about now!
August 23rd, 2008 at 8:47 pm
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August 23rd, 2008 at 8:49 pm
[...] will continue to support NCSF and SFLDEF. They have been nothing but a helpful resource to us personally and we appreciate all they do for [...]